I think it matters if it is over 20 years or 2 years like someone else had said. I fit is my girlfriend and she gains 30 pounds while we are dating then we have a problem. If im married to her sand she gains 30 lbs while we are married then there isn't much to do but have a conversation about what is healthy. My ex-wife lost 45 lbs the last year we were together and she was a miserable wreck while she was losing it. arrrggghhh I never wanted to go home. :yuk: :yuk: :220v: :220v: :crossx: :crossx: :crossx: :crossx: