Swinging, Cheating, Divorce....

[EmpirE231]

is anyone here happily married? shit... 2006 makes marriage look like a joke :confused:

[Kilrtoy]

happy can not even begin to describe my blissful state of marriage

[ratso]

I can count them on two hands probably... with the Kilrtoy's being one of them...

[Cole Trickle]

I am more than happy with my relationship:D
<-----not married;):skull: :supp:

[TheCarDudes]

Very Happy. Great relationship. My second and her first.

[Jyruiz]

Happy is an understatement.:)

[ratso]

I was happily married 5 times... and then the new wore off.

[MRSDRMCAT]

HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:rollside:

[ratso]

Hmm.... 4.... of course Ziggy is gonna be in on this.:D
I'd like to see the # of years too...

[Devil's Advocate]

Stop bringing down the happy thread Ratso.:D

[98 Vector 21]

Happy Happy Happy.....
Unless someones offering?....:confused:

[AZKC]

We are the disfunctional group now :mix: Married 29+ beautiful years:) Ziggy is on his way:)

[Markos]

Happy for most of 25 years(7-10 were a little rough!):shift: :shift:

[lucky]

I'm happily unmarried - :)

[Waldo]

is anyone here happily married? shit... 2006 makes marriage look like a joke :confused:
IMO - Anyone can say or act as if they/we are happily married. You see it all the time "they seemed so happy"...then, BAM!, divorce, separation, $hit-slingin' mess.
It's our actions/behaviors behind closed doors, and in front of peers, that is pivotal to a succesful marriage and family (i.e., how we treat our spouse, ESPESCIALLY IN FRONT OF OUR CHILDREN, during these times).
Also, I firmly believe any successful marriage is a "work in progress". Nobody is perfect and no marriage is perfect (including mine). However, when we realize this, and continually try to communicate & improve our actions (both parties), I feel the marriage/family benefits ten-fold.
Dr. Laura "Waldo"

[ratso]

Stop bringing down the happy thread Ratso.:D
But I have so much fun at it :)

[Kilrtoy]

Im still waiting for those that profess to the world how happy hey are and yet it is common knowledge they fight like cats and dogs

[Trailer Park Casanova]

Slap happy here.
Was single for 16 years,,,

[Jetdriver]

Happily Married for just over 7 years now. Couldnt possibly love anyone as much as I love my wife. In a era where marriage seems to have lost its moral value, we still believe in family values and what is right for us and our children.

[beaverretriever]

happy can not even begin to describe my blissful state of marriage
Me too. My wife rocks, and I couldnt be happier. :)
Edit: Im not saying we never fight, but over all its great.

[Devil's Advocate]

So we'll put a positive spin on it and say you're happily divorced (x5).:crossx:

[ratso]

IMO - Anyone can say or act as if they/we are happily married. You see it all the time "they seemed so happy"...then, BAM!, divorce, separation, $hit-slingin' mess.
It's our actions/behaviors behind closed doors, and in front of peers, that is pivotal to a succesful marriage and family (i.e., how we treat our spouse, ESPESCIALLY IN FRONT OF OUR CHILDREN, during these times).
Also, I firmly believe any successful marriage is a "work in progress". Nobody is perfect and no marriage is perfect (including mine). However, when we realize this, and continually try to communicat & improve our actions (both parties), I feel the marriage/family benefits ten-fold.
Dr. Laura "Waldo"
But all too often, you don't have both people willing to put forth that much effort... The grass is always greener...

[Bense468]

I was happily married 5 times... and then the new wore off.
But your an asshole :crossx:

[YeLLowBoaT]

I was happily married 5 times... and then the new wore off.
dude you need to stop wearing them out...
I have never been married...

[ratso]

So we'll put a positive spin on it and say you're happily divorced (x5).:crossx:
That would be correct... all this mushiness here is gonna make me puke.:notam:

[Ziggy]

I guess I better acklowledge my cheering crowd......... :D:D
working on year 17 of the good life with papers, 20+ yrs total togetherness..

[ratso]

But your an asshole :crossx:
Not until it's time to be an asshole lol...

[Boatcop]

Wonderfully happily married for 27 years.
Looking forward to the next 27.

[Ziggy]

Wonderfully happily married for 27 years.
Looking forward to the next 27.
Right on!! And hopefull another 27 after that, right?:idea:

[ratso]

Well dang, we're over a dozen already.:jawdrop:

[Tremor Therapy]

Ziggy and BC you are not the only ones. It takes two...its not cherry every day, but we are still committed to making it better.
Together for 16 years, married for 14, looking forward to soooo many more!

[Waldo]

Ziggy and BC you are not the only ones. It takes two...its not cherry every day, but we are still committed to making it better.
Together for 16 years, married for 14, looking forward to soooo many more!
Very true, like Ratso and I stated. We've been married 9 years and have known each other 16.
We were friends before we hooked up...I think that is a good thing as well.

[EmpirE231]

and hopefully in the happy responses.... none of those relationships include swinging or cheating... cause in my book... that does not = happy marriage

[Trailer Park Casanova]

We're a team. My wife there for me 100%, and me for her.
Never cared so much for someone.
The D word is never spoken, not an option.
Wifes wedding vows:
http://www.hotboatpics.com/pics/data/500/3812honneymoon__wedding_005.jpg

[Ziggy]

Ziggy and BC you are not the only ones. It takes two...its not cherry every day, but we are still committed to making it better.
Together for 16 years, married for 14, looking forward to soooo many more!
Thumbs up to you two as well....:) :)
Lets not leave out that old guy AZKC, he's been at it for longer than alot of us.
Tell you what, I won't hesitate to say hello to you next time I see you loading your cooler in the Havi Safeway parking lot .:D:D

[Waldo]

We're a team. My wife there for me 100%, and me for her.
Never cared so much for someone.
The D word is never spoken, not an option.
Wifes wedding vows:
http://www.hotboatpics.com/pics/data/500/3812honneymoon__wedding_005.jpg
You've always made mention of how you think of your wife. That's commendable! I try to do the same for mine...especially around her parents.

[Devil's Advocate]

and hopefully in the happy responses.... none of those relationships include swinging or cheating... cause in my book... that does not = happy marriage
I agree.
We're a team. My wife there for me 100%, and me for her.
Never cared so much for someone.
The D word is never spoken, not an option.
Wifes wedding vows:
http://www.hotboatpics.com/pics/data/500/3812honneymoon__wedding_005.jpg
The way it should be.:)

[Kilrtoy]

and hopefully in the happy responses.... none of those relationships include swinging or cheating... cause in my book... that does not = happy marriage
Well one would imagine if you are cheating, then one would not be happy....

[Boatcop]

and hopefully in the happy responses.... none of those relationships include swinging or cheating... cause in my book... that does not = happy marriage
When one is used to prime rib, they have no taste for ground beef.

[Ziggy]

We're a team. My wife there for me 100%, and me for her.
Never cared so much for someone.
The D word is never spoken, not an option.
Wifes wedding vows:
http://www.hotboatpics.com/pics/data/500/3812honneymoon__wedding_005.jpgThats awesome Ross..........
LOL, my wifes handwriting is WAY worse than that ..lmao . See we take with all the bad qualities just the same ;)

[Kilrtoy]

When one is used to prime rib, they have no taste for ground beef.
So when I invite you over for a Bar-B-Que, I take it chesseburgers are out of the question

[EmpirE231]

Well one would imagine if you are cheating, then one would not be happy....
of course.... but there people who have cheating and forgive... anc continue to say they're happy... and then you have easykiller who claims to be happily married... yet they are swingers

[Kilrtoy]

of course.... but there people who have cheating and forgive... anc continue to say they're happy...
SORRY THEY ARE NOT HAPPY
and then you have easykiller who claims to be happily married... yet they are swingers
Just because they enjoy sex does not mean they are unhappy, they do it together

[No Name]

I’m calling B.S. on all of it.:D :D

[Jordy]

What's marriage?? :D :D :D

[Phat Daddy]

Very Happy over here. Together for 17 years (high school sweet hearts) married for 12.

[EmpirE231]

damn talk about some mis- spellings in my last post hahah!!
and sorry... don't agree on swinging and being happily married! they are probably happy forsure! but happily married... I doubt! wouldn't need to swing if you were happily MARRIED.
marriage is the union of a man and woman.... 2 people total... not a union of man woman and their neighbors and friends! that's just a sorry excuse for a marriage.
no offense to anyone... just my opinion

[IN2-IN2MX]

I've never been married. :redface:

[RitcheyRch]

Happliy unmarried although been with my current gf for over 9 years so might as well consider myself married.

[Kilrtoy]

damn talk about some mis- spellings in my last post hahah!!
and sorry... don't agree on swinging and being happily married! they are probably happy forsure! but happily married... I doubt! wouldn't need to swing if you were happily MARRIED.
marriage is the union of a man and woman.... 2 people total... not a union of man woman and their neighbors and friends! that's just a sorry excuse for a marriage.
no offense to anyone... just my opinion
Everyone has vices, let me repeat, everyone has vices
enjoying sex with others is not WRONG, just not what is ok for you..
Hell I know a few people that drop 2 bills a night on dinner, NOW IMO THAT IS WAY WRONG, but that is their vice...
Others smoke , others drink and so on....does not make it wrong, just maybe not right for you

[My Man's Sportin' Wood]

Happily for nearly 17 years. I was 12 when we got married . . . you do the math. :D

[Mandelon]

17 years. Piece of cake. :)

[Devil's Advocate]

Everyone has vices, let me repeat, everyone has vices
enjoying sex with others is not WRONG, just not what is ok for you..
Hell I know a few people that drop 2 bills a night on dinner, NOW IMO THAT IS WAY WRONG, but that is their vice...
Others smoke , others drink and so on....does not make it wrong, just maybe not right for you
Vice? :hammerhea Na, I don't think so. They need to be educated on what marriage means then. The union of 2 people as Empire said, that's it.

[Rexone]

So did the Saints kick Dallas's ass or what.

[Kilrtoy]

Vice? :hammerhea Na, I don't think so. They need to be educated on what marriage means then. The union of 2 people as Empire said, that's it.
Are you married??????:hammerhea

[Devil's Advocate]

Are you married??????:hammerhea
No.:D And I wouldn't be going there either if I was having sex with more than one man.

[ratso]

So did the Saints kick Dallas's ass or what.
:mad: :mad: :mad:

[Kilrtoy]

No.:D And I wouldn't be going there either if I was having sex with more than one man.
So your not excluding women as of yet:mix: , NICE

[ratso]

No.:D And I wouldn't be going there either if I was having sex with more than one man.
I'm sorry but I just got this vision in my head...:D

[ratso]

So your not excluding women as of yet:mix: , NICE
ROTFLMAO!

[Kilrtoy]

I'm sorry but I just got this vision in my head...:D
So that is why she is still just dating:idea: I wonder if NO NAME knows this

[Devil's Advocate]

Stop it you two.:D And Kilr, I just read your mind and knew you would say that and I said shit, I should have said women in that post too.:hammerhea

[Kilrtoy]

Stop it you two.:D And Kilr, I just read your mind and knew you would say that and I said shit, I should have said women in that post too.:hammerhea
You wanted to , but still have that carnal desire within you, Guess your not ready to give that vice up just yet:mix: :mix: :mix:

[ratso]

Damn, ya'll are killin' me here...:D

[Devil's Advocate]

You wanted to , but still have that carnal desire within you, Guess your not ready to give that vice up just yet:mix: :mix: :mix:
LMAO! I didn't say I was dating more than one man. (I've got to say that in case no name is watching..:supp: :D ) Surrender the vice thing already. I won't be having sex with you and your wifey.:eek: :crossx:

[Kilrtoy]

LMAO! I didn't say I was dating more than one man. (I've got to say that in case no name is watching..:supp: :D ) Surrender the vice thing already. I won't be having sex with you and your wifey.:eek: :crossx:
Since you wont return to havasu until next year, I guess that will hold true for the remainder of this year:supp:

[jbtrailerjim]

is anyone here happily married? shit... 2006 makes marriage look like a joke :confused:
Been happily married for 8 years and together for almost 11.
and hopefully in the happy responses.... none of those relationships include swinging or cheating... cause in my book... that does not = happy marriage
Cheating or swinging is absolutely not an option for either one of us. I would have never married her if I still had the desire to go out and be with other women. I don't get the whole swinging deal but it really does not matter to me because I'd never associate with a couple who swings anyway. I'm not down with that kind of life style.

[Ziggy]

Last swingers I heard about on the news had their daughter kidnapped, raped and killed while they were both out having their way with someone else. Some neighbor that didn't get what he wanted from the mother at the bar so he went home and snatched her daughter instead.......:cry:
David Westerfield.
.
.

[Essex29]

together 13 yrs..married 10:)

[MUDXPRT]

Febuary 6 makes 19 yrs. Happy yes, but marriage takes two people working together. It is and always will be work in progress. As far as cheating goes it is not an option. I have three great kids and a lovely wife that I do not care to share with anyone.

[stvneil]

:sleeping: will be 36 years feb. 07. must still be happy.:p :)

[stvneil]

:shift: did they ever. i went to the first saint home game in 1967 and haven't been back. i am a closet fan, hate to go out on a limb. i think they have a hell of a coach. the atmosphere is unreal in louisiana right now, hope it lasts.So did the Saints kick Dallas's ass or what.

[2forcefull]

Very Happy. Great relationship. My second and her first.
who you two married to?:confused: :confused:

[slowinhavasu]

Everyone has vices, let me repeat, everyone has vices
enjoying sex with others is not WRONG, just not what is ok for you..
Hell I know a few people that drop 2 bills a night on dinner, NOW IMO THAT IS WAY WRONG, but that is their vice...
Others smoke , others drink and so on....does not make it wrong, just maybe not right for you
I always thought is more fun enjoying sex with others, kinda boring by yourself...LOL:mix:
Married 21 years, together for 25......take it one day at a time...
Different strokes for diffrerent folks, what ever floats your boats...live and let live.....:shift:

[dragboat]

:sleeping: will be 36 years feb. 07. must still be happy.:p :)
34 posts, joined in March of 03? I think you're spending more time with her than you are with us?!

[lawbreaker2]

Been together for 11 years now, and still happy.:mix:

[havaduner]

Been married 18 years, happily, cant see either one of us wanting to change this deal anytime soon.

[cola]

31 years for us. I'am hoping she keeps me around another 30 or so. :cool:

[Kilrtoy]

We should now start a thread on
WHO IS CHEATING ON THEIR SPOUSE AND NOT HAPPY...

[TCHB]

Happy Happy here. Married my high school sweat heart!

[voodoomedman]

I maybe wet behind the ears still but we've been married for 5 years and things could not be better. 21 month old boy and a new baby on the way. My only regret since we met at 19 was not being financially sound enough to marry her sooner. It was 2 years and 3 months until the actual wedding date. The trick is to find the right one. If it took until I was 40 I would not have married unless she was the right one.

[work2play]

Been married 28 years. If you have the same long term goals you can make it. The only thing that would make it better is if she was healthier.

[Phat Daddy]

It is and always will be work in progress. As far as cheating goes it is not an option. I have three great kids and a lovely wife that I do not care to share with anyone.
Very well put. My thoughts exactly.

[EAZYKILLER2006]

of course.... but there people who have cheating and forgive... anc continue to say they're happy... and then you have easykiller who claims to be happily married... yet they are swingers
HEY theres "ME" mentioned in this post:) well all i can say is... if i never told ya we were swingers.... you all would of never known...if you all never knew ...you would think "THE SAME OF~ US AS YOU THINK" about alot of the couples up on here who are swingers (BUT KEEP THAT SHIT UNDER COVER.)..lol~ it could be ppl who live next door to you ~THEY COULD BE SWINGERS AND YOU WOULD NEVER KNOW ~ LOL~...all i am saying is there ARE alot ...ALOT more swingers than you think...if you all only knew...lets just put it this way~ have any of you ever been to a harley run in laughlin? the place is taken over with bikes everythere! well that HOW the lifestye convention is in vegas ...and the HAVASU ONE THAT WAS HOST IN JULY WAS JUST A PACKED...

[RitcheyRch]

I remember that. Wasnt that about 4-5 years ago?
Last swingers I heard about on the news had their daughter kidnapped, raped and killed while they were both out having their way with someone else. Some neighbor that didn't get what he wanted from the mother at the bar so he went home and snatched her daughter instead.......:cry:
David Westerfield.
.
.

[Huckleberry]

Yep. Happily married here.

[mbrown2]

Happy Happy here. Married my high school sweat heart!
Ditto...happily married 12yrs, been together 20yrs...

[Tom Brown]

dude you need to stop wearing them out...
rotfl! :D
Ratso is a sexual pogo-stick. :cool:

[HOOTER SLED-]

Very well put. My thoughts exactly.
BItch, you're just afraid yo ass is gonna actually have to do something when Momma dumps you. LMFAO!!!!:D

[Tom Brown]

Different strokes for diffrerent folks, what ever floats your boats...live and let live.....:shift:
Dude, your attitude is all focked up. :D
HEY theres "ME" mentioned in this post:)
I'll hang out with you, EK2006. :cool:
One thing, though. No matter how smoking hot you find me, please keep your hands to yourself. I don't go in for the lifestyle. I'm just in it for the friendship.
...ALOT more swingers than you think...if you all only knew...lets just put it this way~ have any of you ever been to a harley run in laughlin? the place is taken over with bikes everythere! well that HOW the lifestye convention is in vegas ...and the HAVASU ONE THAT WAS HOST IN JULY WAS JUST A PACKED...
"PACKED" :D :D

[Tom Brown]

Wifes wedding vows:
http://www.hotboatpics.com/pics/data/500/3812honneymoon__wedding_005.jpg
Am I the only one a little choked up by this?

[Phat Daddy]

BItch, you're just afraid yo ass is gonna actually have to do something when Momma dumps you. LMFAO!!!!:D
She won't leave me. She wouldn't know what to do with herself.:sleeping:

[EAZYKILLER2006]

I remember that. Wasnt that about 4-5 years ago?
ya mean the lifestyle convention? thats every year...its a big swinger party basically...and whos the ones ~ who watch porn? thats just your man wishing he had two women :idea: sucking on his rocks... WELL swingers just make them fantasies cum true...i think every man should have a good b/J at least 5 times a day ....if the wife cant do it .....then ...hey ! someones BETTER do it...nowadays women just dont keep there men sexually satisfied...

[Nord]

ya mean the lifestyle convention? thats every year...its a big swinger party basically...and whos the ones ~ who watch porn? thats just your man wishing he had two women :idea: sucking on his rocks... WELL swingers just make them fantasies cum true...i think every man should have a good b/J at least 5 times a day ....if the wife cant do it .....then ...hey ! someones BETTER do it...nowadays women just dont keep there men sexually satisfied...
God Bless You!!!

[hot_diggity_dog]

I guess I better acklowledge my cheering crowd......... :D:D
working on year 17 of the good life with papers, 20+ yrs total togetherness..
22 & 26
no worries with this team!
HDD

[ratso]

...nowadays women just dont keep there men sexually satisfied...
...exactly.

[EAZYKILLER2006]

Dude, your attitude is all focked up. :D
I'll hang out with you, EK2006. :cool:
One thing, though. No matter how smoking hot you find me, please keep your hands to yourself. I don't go in for the lifestyle. I'm just in it for the friendship
"PACKED" :D :D
oh how sweet!!! but it kinda sounds to me like offering a multimillionair 20$ ???:confused: ~i never could figure out why ...the minute anyone finds out we are swingers ...sex cums to play...its like being so full after turkey day and someone says lets out to eat...WTF i cant eat another bite...sex is the last thing any swingers have in mind.... because there is sooo much SEX oooozin from everywhere...

[Flyinbowtie]

Together 30. Married 26.
If I had it to do all over again, I would.
Fortunately for me, so would she.

[HOOTER SLED-]

oh how sweet!!! but it kinda sounds to me like offering a multimillionair 20$ ???:confused: ~i never could figure out why ...the minute anyone finds out we are swingers ...sex cums to play...its like being so full after turkey day and someone says lets out to eat...WTF i cant eat another bite...sex is the last thing any swingers have in mind.... because there is sooo much SEX oooozin from everywhere...
LOL....You said ooooooozin. Spplat:)

[Tom Brown]

~i never could figure out why ...the minute anyone finds out we are swingers ...sex cums to play...
We know you want us.
It's like the gays. They'd like nothing more than to hit on us and get us to go for them. It's the dodgeball sexuality principle. Our job, is to frantically jump from the path of their oncoming passes.
Swingers.... same deal but with couples.
.... because there is sooo much SEX oooozin from everywhere...
I try to restrict the oooozing to the shower or into a tissue.

[No Name]

sex is the last thing any swingers have in mind.... because there is sooo much SEX oooozin from everywhere...
http://www.***boat.com/image_center/data/520/3087000_5247-med.JPG

[CornWater]

I try to restrict the oooozing to the shower or into a tissue.
Ahh... cleanliness, next to godliness..
:hammerhea

[SHAKE-YO-AZZ]

happy can not even begin to describe my blissful state of marriage
:sleeping: :idea: :rolleyes:
red room friday night

[Kilrtoy]

:sleeping: :idea: :rolleyes:
red room friday night
Not a happy state, but not by our doing
and by the way you have a nice new friend

[beerjet]

Ive been with my wife for about 9 years and married for about a year and a half . Two kids . 6 years old and 4 months old. We've tolerated each other this long so I'm gonna go out on a limb and say we're happy . I couldn't begin to imagine how happy I would be with at least one more woman . Breaking another womans spirit would be a pain in the ass though. Heff status , here I come !

[SHAKE-YO-AZZ]

Not a happy state, but not by our doing
and by the way you have a nice new friend
thanks I hope all is ok, if you need something let me know

[Throttle]

was happily married... oh well, got two great kids out of the deal... maybe i shoulda been cheatin... cuz she wuz...

[XtrmWakeborder]

Happliy unmarried although been with my current gf for over 9 years so might as well consider myself married.
So i've heard, in cali if you have been dating together for over 7 years and say live in a house together if you break up she gets half of it still....:hammerhea

[uselessgrant]

12 years of hell:hammerhea :argue: :mad: :sleeping:

[SmokinLowriderSS]

Happy here, our 3rd.

[RitcheyRch]

My attorney told me there is no common law in Calif.
So i've heard, in cali if you have been dating together for over 7 years and say live in a house together if you break up she gets half of it still....:hammerhea

[OKIE-JET]

[QUOTE=EAZYKILLER2006;2290619]...i think every man should have a good b/J at least 5 times a day ...
PRICELESS!... Married 16 yrs and coulndnt be better!...Never loved anyone as much as I do her, yeah its got rough spots but its few and far between, and talk about havin fun.....whew!!!

[TAF]

So we'll put a positive spin on it and say you're happily divorced (x5).:crossx:
Not always :confused: happy, still looking after 5 yrs of divorce (any of you females like baldheaded dragboat :skull: guru wannabes?):skull: :idea:

[DAVEY B]

My wife and I have been together for 21 years and married for 16 in May. We are like best freinds and do pretty much everything together, we both work veryhard but we play hard to. We do not have any children which I know can make it hard on a relationship!
The grass is always greener on the other side but it still has to be mowed and the reason it is greener is because it's getting better care. Just remember when your looking at the grass on the other side someones looking at yours!:cry:

[Devil's Advocate]

..nowadays women just dont keep there men sexually satisfied...
Maybe SOME women don't.:rolleyes: If I need back-up, I need to fix what I'm doing.:hammerhea

[lucky]

two marriages/20 years - A Whole bunch of trial and Error - One wonderful kid - and a New perspective on life --
I applod marriages that stay together - MY personal Oppion is Our society is tearing apart the fabric of America and the Original Princiables Of the "American Dream" With all the diversity and culture from other regions of the world -- We are destine to evaluate our Morals -- And Hey - If the marriage is On its last legs - Why not sample some butter from another mother --
My Point is TRUE COMMITMENT - is a Rarity -- If you have it and Know it - Keep it ! If you don't Ride the Ride ! If it makes you smile :) Do it :hammerhea
but be true to yourself and maitain your high morals errrrrr welll , what ever they are lol

[WYRD]

I was happily married 5 times... and then the new wore off.
So I am thinking there was a common denominator:idea: :confused: :mix:

[AzLakeLizard]

We have been together 10 years.. Married for 8...some struggles/trials etc but Mardonzi is the Love of my Life and Soul Mate! and dang it.. I miss him while he is gone working in Cali all week.. get to see him on the average every other weekend...:(
BUT this Christmas since the kids will be in Michigan with their Dad.. I will go to San Diego and spend the Holiday Week with my hunny!.. woooohooo:D :p

[acatitude]

So i've heard, in cali if you have been dating together for over 7 years and say live in a house together if you break up she gets half of it still....:hammerhea
all depends on circumstances. If its your house and she lives with you, its yours. If you get married that can change. There is no such thing as common law marriage in calif.

[syke-o]

marriage can be a son of a bitch sometimes... sometimes its easy, but most times its hard... i am on my 7th year and it doesnt seem to be any easier... with 3 young kids in the mix things have only gotten harder the last 4 years... maybe when they are a little older the stress will be reduced thus equalling a better overall relationship...
but my question to people thinking about marriage is why? 6 out of 10 end in divorce.. whats in it for a guy to get married?? are you going to love her any more, or feel any different about her? if you had a 60% chance of losing money in a business deal would that seem like a good investment?

[DAVEO]

Been together for almost 20 years and married for 10 years all is good.

[Trailer Park Casanova]

all depends on circumstances. If its your house and she lives with you, its yours. If you get married that can change. There is no such thing as common law marriage in calif.
Ditto.

[EmpirE231]

HEY theres "ME" mentioned in this post:) well all i can say is... if i never told ya we were swingers.... you all would of never known...if you all never knew ...you would think "THE SAME OF~ US AS YOU THINK" about alot of the couples up on here who are swingers (BUT KEEP THAT SHIT UNDER COVER.)..lol~ it could be ppl who live next door to you ~THEY COULD BE SWINGERS AND YOU WOULD NEVER KNOW ~ LOL~...all i am saying is there ARE alot ...ALOT more swingers than you think...if you all only knew...lets just put it this way~ have any of you ever been to a harley run in laughlin? the place is taken over with bikes everythere! well that HOW the lifestye convention is in vegas ...and the HAVASU ONE THAT WAS HOST IN JULY WAS JUST A PACKED...
Nahhh I can kinda tell who the closet swingers are!! I'm sure some are better about hiding it, but it'll deffinantly come out if you were to be hanging out with them on the regular.
so let me see here.... what's the point of marriage through a swingers views? only thing it seems to do is F you up in the case of a divorce? might as well just live together and do your thing? maybe to have kids?? which I hope you know who the daddy is... and def would be a rough one for kids if they ever found out mommy and daddy bang different people. marraige was first brought out by religion.... and they don't really look favorably in the ways of swinging :idea:
I guess swinging is a twisted / easyway out for people that cant hack a real relationship... that's the way I see it. If I wanted to bang other chicks...I'd be single... it comes easy and it's everywhere.... but if I'm gonna be in a relationship and care and love for my girlfriend... why would I want to bang other chicks still? what's the point of getting feelings and involved with one woman, if I still cant respect her enough to be true to her? and why would i want some other prick running his dick through my girlfriend/ wife and her to come home to me and tell me she loves me?? that's just plain weird!!! and deserves a punch in the lip if it ever were to happen.
I mean what are the two main reasons for split up/ divorce?? it's financial issues and infidelity!! swingers dont have to worry about infidelity because they can bang whoever they want... well as long as they let the other person know lol. so of course they're gonna seem to be happy to others that dont know they're swingers, because underneath it all they dont hold true to what a relationship/ marriage is! and I'm sure a ton of swingers are everywhere!! conventions probably packed! but if bangin your dog became semi- socially acceptable (since everything is liberal in the media / television) (and I've seen a episode of THE OC where they were at a swingers party... that's why I make the refferance) , then a dog bangin convetion would probably end up being packed also... but it's still weird.
and you're right about most women not sexually satisfying their men these days... heck most of my friends had more sex being single than they currently do with their girlfriends of 1+ years. I'm a happy mofo, but had problems like that in a past relationship.... but there is more to a relationship than just F'n.... if it was just about that.... then I'd stay single... and would have zero problems :)
damn I'm rambling on... work has been super slow... haha. just explaining my view on the subject. have no problem with things I dont agree with as long as they dont try the funny shit around me and my girl. I would never share the girl I love! now in the single life... I had no problem sharing the next blondie at the bar :crossx:

[Kilrtoy]

Nahhh I can kinda tell who the closet swingers are!! I'm sure some are better about hiding it, but it'll deffinantly come out if you were to be hanging out with them on the regular.
so let me see here.... what's the point of marriage through a swingers views? only thing it seems to do is F you up in the case of a divorce? might as well just live together and do your thing? maybe to have kids?? which I hope you know who the daddy is... and def would be a rough one for kids if they ever found out mommy and daddy bang different people. marraige was first brought out by religion.... and they don't really look favorably in the ways of swinging :idea:
I guess swinging is a twisted / easyway out for people that cant hack a real relationship... that's the way I see it. If I wanted to bang other chicks...I'd be single... it comes easy and it's everywhere.... but if I'm gonna be in a relationship and care and love for my girlfriend... why would I want to bang other chicks still? what's the point of getting feelings and involved with one woman, if I still cant respect her enough to be true to her? and why would i want some other prick running his dick through my girlfriend/ wife and her to come home to me and tell me she loves me?? that's just plain weird!!! and deserves a punch in the lip if it ever were to happen.
I mean what are the two main reasons for split up/ divorce?? it's financial issues and infidelity!! swingers dont have to worry about infidelity because they can bang whoever they want... well as long as they let the other person know lol. so of course they're gonna seem to be happy to others that dont know they're swingers, because underneath it all they dont hold true to what a relationship/ marriage is! and I'm sure a ton of swingers are everywhere!! conventions probably packed! but if bangin your dog became semi- socially acceptable (since everything is liberal in the media / television) (and I've seen a episode of THE OC where they were at a swingers party... that's why I make the refferance) , then a dog bangin convetion would probably end up being packed also... but it's still weird.
and you're right about most women not sexually satisfying their men these days... heck most of my friends had more sex being single than they currently do with their girlfriends of 1+ years. I'm a happy mofo, but had problems like that in a past relationship.... but there is more to a relationship than just F'n.... if it was just about that.... then I'd stay single... and would have zero problems :)
damn I'm rambling on... work has been super slow... haha. just explaining my view on the subject. have no problem with things I dont agree with as long as they dont try the funny shit around me and my girl. I would never share the girl I love! now in the single life... I had no problem sharing the next blondie at the bar :crossx:
So I take it your a closet swinger

[EmpirE231]

marriage can be a son of a bitch sometimes... sometimes its easy, but most times its hard... i am on my 7th year and it doesnt seem to be any easier... with 3 young kids in the mix things have only gotten harder the last 4 years... maybe when they are a little older the stress will be reduced thus equalling a better overall relationship...
but my question to people thinking about marriage is why? 6 out of 10 end in divorce.. whats in it for a guy to get married?? are you going to love her any more, or feel any different about her? if you had a 60% chance of losing money in a business deal would that seem like a good investment?
I'm in that boat of the thinking about marriage.....well not just thinking... I know I'm going to! I probably would never want to get married if I didnt want kids, but I do want kids and I want to have a family. marriage plays a big role in that. sure you can have kids and not be married.... but why not? heck as far as a loosing business.... I think over 70% of new small businesses fail!! that's more than the average divorce rate. but if you do your research and make a smart business descision....you are 90% more likely to succeed! you'll def make the long run... and you could be that top % that runs the whole market :) ... same thing when it comes down to picking your wife ;)
there are a ton of people that marry for the wrong reason, and tons of people that have major RED FLAGS that they should be catching before they go into it. but there are also alot of dumb people in this world :)

[EmpirE231]

So I take it your a closet swinger
nope no clost swinging at all.... I said in the single life :) I had my fun... got all the stuff off my checklist before getting into a serious relationship. the whole two chicks one time aint what it's cracked up to be! you're usually so twisted you cant remember 15% of it.

[beaverretriever]

The swinging thing would never work out for me and my wife.
It would be like lending my Porsche out to a friend for him to beat on whilst I have to borrow another friends ragged ol Dodge Dart just to have somthing to drive. :notam: ;)

[Kilrtoy]

The swinging thing would never work out for me and my wife.
It would be like lending my Porsche out to a friend for him to beat on whilst I have to borrow another friends ragged ol Dodge Dart just to have somthing to drive. :notam: ;)
But what if the Dodge was VIPER

[GHT]

I know several married couples from HB and a great majority of them have Very Happy and Successful marriages. Many have been married for 7+ years and continue to grow.
My wife and I have had our share of issues (as everyone does) but at the end of the day. I am very happy and I believe my wife is too.....
Waldo was right to say it is "a work in progress". :mix:

[OGShocker]

I was happily married 5 times... and then the new wore off.
QUITTER!!!:hammerhea :)

[out of bounds]

going on 15 years and just as happy today as i was day one. Now some once said a "little flurt never hurt" Ture dat.The thought of tradding my hot rod in a school bus isn't worth it. But there is nothing wrong setting with your sunglasses on and checking out a hot chick. If you say you haven'y you are full of shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Mandelon]

How come Frenchie didn't post in this thread?
If you wank off normally with your right hand, and you sometimes use the left for a little change, does using both hands count as swinging?

[Seadog]

Five months and two weeks from thirty years. Neither of us have ever been hotties, but we have had opportunities if we had chosen. We both feel that there are some things that are exclusive. You don't share your toothbrush, your razor or your spouse. It boils down to respect. A wife that you feel you can trade around is not getting the respect she deserves.
Marriage is far from easy, but when nature turns the fab to flab, it is great to be with the one person that thinks you are perfect.

[bocco]

How come Frenchie didn't post in this thread?
If you wank off normally with your right hand, and you sometimes use the left for a little change, does using both hands count as swinging?
Nope you gotta wank off with somebody else's wifes hand or hands for it to count as swinging.

[DILLIGAF]

Been married twice but would never get married again if I felt the need to cheat or swing. Can do that if I want now and don't.
Just doesn't make sense to me but to each their own. Just keep it out of my back yard.....

[Biglue]

Ive been with my wife for about 9 years and married for about a year and a half . Two kids . 6 years old and 4 months old. We've tolerated each other this long so I'm gonna go out on a limb and say we're happy . I couldn't begin to imagine how happy I would be with at least one more woman . Breaking another womans spirit would be a pain in the ass though. Heff status , here I come !
Don't do it bro. I have enough troubles with one woman in my life, I can't even imagine trying to juggle a second one. :D
Every relationship has it highs and lows. Doesn't even have to be a marriage. The key (for me anyways) is finding the way to the other end of a problem without killing your foundation little by little with insults and arguments. I try to just avoid angry conflicts. Sometimes I get drawn in out of frustration. I don't enjoy leaving my wife in a bad mood over an argument we may have. Can't deny that sometimes splitsville has come into mind every now and then. I don't think either of us could afford to maintain the quality of life we now have on our own. The kids would definitely be affected by us going our seperate ways. Then there's the whole half deal. But most of all I sacrifice a few smiles during the lows for the smiles my kids can grow into their adulthoods with. A lot of people cannot look beyond their needs and their perception of happiness over the responsibility of parenting. I know I would not be happy with myself if I was away from my kids. It would drive me crazy and more than likely span out into other parts of my life like relationships and so forth. Just my .02.

[ratso]

One thing I see a lot of out there are weak individuals or people that are in relationships because they can't make it financially otherwise... they may be afraid of being alone or they "settle" because they want kids so bad and their biological clock is ticking. I know of guys that are in relationships that suck and would love to screw around (if they had any game) and they won't break up because they don't want someone else banging their ex, or they are just plain afraid they might not be getting laid on a regular basis should they end the relationship. Just in the last two weeks I know of two different couples in the "dating mode", and the chick's exes either came back or wanted to talk or broke in or whatever the story is, and one was raped by her ex and the other was beat up but won't admit to being raped (although the guy was their 3 hours)... yeah, right... and no these weren't both in Texas, one was in Louisiana... I can't count how many chicks want to be with me permanently, and not so much that they love me... they just hate being alone and want to be in a relationship. I gotta admit the sex is off the hook while they are trying to persuade me though. A couple chicks I know bounce around constantly and soon as they break up, they are in another "serious" relationship before the following weekend. I believe there are some solid relationships, and I also think there is some sugar coating going on... I've been in 5 marriages and plenty of relationships over the years. Do I miss it? Hell no, and the reasons why I won't even get into. There is one true love in my life, and for various reasons I'm quite sure we'll never be together again... and I'll be damned if I'm going to settle the way so many others do...tried it and not going there again... I am content, and although I'm not doing backflips, I don't much care for the alternative anymore.

[lucky]

One thing I see a lot of out there are weak individuals or people that are in relationships because they can't make it financially otherwise... they may be afraid of being alone or they "settle" because they want kids so bad and their biological clock is ticking. I know of guys that are in relationships that suck and would love to screw around (if they had any game) and they won't break up because they don't want someone else banging their ex, or they are just plain afraid they might not be getting laid on a regular basis should they end the relationship. Just in the last two weeks I know of two different couples in the "dating mode", and the chick's exes either came back or wanted to talk or broke in or whatever the story is, and one was raped by her ex and the other was beat up but won't admit to being raped (although the guy was their 3 hours)... yeah, right... and no these weren't both in Texas, one was in Louisiana... I can't count how many chicks want to be with me permanently, and not so much that they love me... they just hate being alone and want to be in a relationship. I gotta admit the sex is off the hook while they are trying to persuade me though. A couple chicks I know bounce around constantly and soon as they break up, they are in another "serious" relationship before the following weekend. I believe there are some solid relationships, and I also think there is some sugar coating going on... I've been in 5 marriages and plenty of relationships over the years. Do I miss it? Hell no, and the reasons why I won't even get into. There is one true love in my life, and for various reasons I'm quite sure we'll never be together again... and I'll be damned if I'm going to settle the way so many others do...tried it and not going there again... I am content, and although I'm not doing backflips, I don't much care for the alternative anymore.
amen -

[Bre]

is anyone here happily married? shit... 2006 makes marriage look like a joke :confused:
Your tellin me, I know too many people going through divorces right now.. and I have friends that I know are cheating on their wife/hubby and that are being cheated on. :hammerhea
My divorce will be final in a month, but it doesn't really change much since we have two young kids together.

[lucky]

Your tellin me, I know too many people going through divorces right now.. and I have friends that I know are cheating on their wife/hubby and that are being cheated on. :hammerhea
My divorce will be final in a month, but it doesn't really change much since we have two young kids together.
well , other than everyonther week ya have to cook for your self ooooorrr find a baller to take ya out :)

[Sportin' Wood]

16 1/2 years, never been swinging except off a rope into a lake.
Seems like wanting your cake and eat it too. I won't lie I find a lot of women atractive and have been hit on, but for me its just an ego boost. I really still like my wife. I can't think of any woman that would put up with the shit I do and not nag the crap out of me, or be a maintanece issue. She would say the same but I spent a long time training her why would I start over?
We have a few freinds that like to screw around with each others spouses and it seems they all lack something in thier marrige they are looking for.
Ratso is right weak people in a relationship because of fear. I'm afraid if I lost her I'd be sorry. It's a hell of a weakness.:redface:

[ratso]

My divorce will be final in a month, but it doesn't really change much since we have two young kids together.
It looks like you have 2 awesome kids there Bre...;)

[Ziggy]

16 1/2 years, never been swinging except off a rope into a lake.
Seems like wanting your cake and eat it too. I won't lie I find a lot of women atractive and have been hit on, but for me its just an ego boost. I really still like my wife. I can't think of any woman that would put up with the shit I do and not nag the crap out of me, or be a maintanece issue. She would say the same but I spent a long time training her why would I start over?
We have a few freinds that like to screw around with each others spouses and it seems they all lack something in thier marrige they are looking for.
Ratso is right weak people in a relationship because of fear. I'm afraid if I lost her I'd be sorry. It's a hell of a weakness.:redface:
BMac hitting on you is an Ego booster?:confused: :D :D
j/k :)
.
Who sings that song? "Love the one you're with" .
Divorse is the easy way out instead of retuning a relationship.

[acatitude]

guess theres a lot of ways to look at this. when my girlfriend of 8 years living together and her 2 kids I helped raise, left, the house boat and cars stayed. Dont think that would have happened had we been married and we still would have broke up even if married im sure. I do however admire my friends who have long term marriages and have stayed together and worked things out. I admire them for that in this day and age of throw away everything, even relationships.

[Trailer Park Casanova]

guess theres a lot of ways to look at this. I do however admire my friends who have long term marriages and have stayed together and worked things out. I admire them for that in this day and age of throw away everything, even relationships.
That says alot.

[Trailer Park Casanova]

Your tellin me, I know too many people going through divorces right now.. and I have friends that I know are cheating on their wife/hubby and that are being cheated on. :hammerhea
My divorce will be final in a month, but it doesn't really change much since we have two young kids together.
So what's next for you Bre?
Would you marry again?

[ratso]

So what's next for you Bre?
Would you marry again?
I already asked her on ISL... she hasn't replied lol...

[Bre]

So what's next for you Bre?
Would you marry again?
I know a lot of people don't agree with this, but....... I will say it.....
I do not think marriage means anything. It does not mean you love the person anymore or less. If I look at the people around me I'd say at least 50% of the relationships seemed fine until they got married. Not sure why it changes something, and not saying it does for each relationship, but it does for at least half ( in my surroundings) . Andy and I had a lot of ups and downs as I am sure most relationships have. Esp. when two people come together at a young age and take on personality changing careers. People grow up, I sure know I have. Esp over the last 1 1/2 since we separated. Never been on my own. Moved straight out of my parents house into a condo that Andy and I bought together. After being together for a couple yrs and not having the best relationship, we brought a child into this world. Which I would not take back for anything. But whether we got married or not, after having a child together we are forever in each others lives. We got married because our parents wanted us to and so that I could be under his insurance ( dumb , we know ). They didnt exactly believe in having kids and not being married. I did love him, and we could have tried harder to work it out. But when he was ready to, I was not. And when I was ready to he wasnt. So here we are, a month away from the divorce being final. Luckily we each agreed on pretty much everything as far as the house, cars etc. And even though we have divided our things, we would each let the other use a car, trailer or whatever if they needed to.
Now after getting carried away, in my case it is different. Just because we had two kids. But I do not care to get married again. Nor do I care to put my name on a house/car/trailer/boat/etc with someone else. I don't want to go through all of this again. I would like one more kid, possibly two, but I do not think that is going to happen. Just one more thing to tie me to another person. I am happy I have two beauitful/healthy kids. It sucks going through all this and the kids now having different rules from one house to another... sucks having the kids ask me when I am going to move back in with Daddy etc. It hurts. I do not wish any of this upon anyone. Maybe one day I will get married and possibly have children, not saying it is totally out of the question, just saying it will take someone extremely special to make me re-think it.
So what's next for me? About to step into a good Career. It is going to be stressful over the next 6 months, but in the end I will have a great career with great benefits. I will without a doubt be able to take care of myself and my two wonderful kids . Hopefully within the next couple yrs I will be able to buy a house again for the kids and I. I am just looking to get my life back on track. And have some security. Whether I have a man there or not it doesnt matter. I need to do what is best for the kids and I right now. I need to give them back a normal life. Well as normal as it can be. So getting married is last on my list.

[Mrs.Killer]

I know a lot of people don't agree with this, but....... I will say it.....
I do not think marriage means anything. It does not mean you love the person anymore or less. If I look at the people around me I'd say at least 50% of the relationships seemed fine until they got married. Not sure why it changes something, and not saying it does for each relationship, but it does for at least half ( in my surroundings) . Andy and I had a lot of ups and downs as I am sure most relationships have. Esp. when two people come together at a young age and take on personality changing careers. People grow up, I sure know I have. Esp over the last 1 1/2 since we separated. Never been on my own. Moved straight out of my parents house into a condo that Andy and I bought together. After being together for a couple yrs and not having the best relationship, we brought a child into this world. Which I would not take back for anything. But whether we got married or not, after having a child together we are forever in each others lives. We got married because our parents wanted us to and so that I could be under his insurance ( dumb , we know ). They didnt exactly believe in having kids and not being married. I did love him, and we could have tried harder to work it out. But when he was ready to, I was not. And when I was ready to he wasnt. So here we are, a month away from the divorce being final. Luckily we each agreed on pretty much everything as far as the house, cars etc. And even though we have divided our things, we would each let the other use a car, trailer or whatever if they needed to.
Now after getting carried away, in my case it is different. Just because we had two kids. But I do not care to get married again. Nor do I care to put my name on a house/car/trailer/boat/etc with someone else. I don't want to go through all of this again. I would like one more kid, possibly two, but I do not think that is going to happen. Just one more thing to tie me to another person. I am happy I have two beauitful/healthy kids. It sucks going through all this and the kids now having different rules from one house to another... sucks having the kids ask me when I am going to move back in with Daddy etc. It hurts. I do not wish any of this upon anyone. Maybe one day I will get married and possibly have children, not saying it is totally out of the question, just saying it will take someone extremely special to make me re-think it.
So what's next for me? About to step into a good Career. It is going to be stressful over the next 6 months, but in the end I will have a great career with great benefits. I will without a doubt be able to take care of myself and my two wonderful kids . Hopefully within the next couple yrs I will be able to buy a house again for the kids and I. I am just looking to get my life back on track. And have some security. Whether I have a man there or not it doesnt matter. I need to do what is best for the kids and I right now. I need to give them back a normal life. Well as normal as it can be. So getting married is last on my list.
Glad to hear that life is treating you well Bre:)

[Bre]

Glad to hear that life is treating you well Bre:)
Thank you!

[riverroyal]

10 years has flown by.Ive given her more grief than shes given me I think.

[EAZYKILLER2006]

http://www.***boat.com/image_center/data/520/3087000_5247-med.JPG
KEWL KEWL...
i was 15 and hubby was 18 (when we met and married)..... if this helps any:sleeping: WE WERE ~~~~THE LIL CHURCH family WITH kids in sports...that was like a lifetime ago and how boring it was~~~we didnt start swinging till ....lets see i was 38 and hubby 41....we just felt life it too short , and we should explore and have fun...i cant help how funny this sounds...but what can i say ~~~~we love the lifestyle ....and our life NOW!!!...we get invited to bad ass partys (like Holleywood style) ...for new years we will be at the mansion...WAY.....sooo much fun!!!

[IN2-IN2MX]

KEWL KEWL...
i was 15 and hubby was 18 (when we met and married)..... if this helps any:sleeping: WE WERE ~~~~THE LIL CHURCH family WITH kids in sports...that was like a lifetime ago and how boring it was~~~we didnt start swinging till ....lets see i was 38 and hubby 41....we just felt life it too short , and we should explore and have fun...i cant help how funny this sounds...but what can i say ~~~~we love the lifestyle ....and our life NOW!!!...we get invited to bad ass partys (like Holleywood style) ...for new years we will be at the mansion...WAY.....sooo much fun!!!
If you're enjoying life and not hurting anyone then right on! :)

[EAZYKILLER2006]

If you're enjoying life and not hurting anyone then right on! :)
YEPPER http://i133.photobucket.com/albums/q71/eazykiller2006/KCandlaurie.jpgRITE ON...LOL:mix:

[Kilrtoy]

If you're enjoying life and not hurting anyone then right on! :)
You still up girl

[EAZYKILLER2006]

You still up girl
LOL ~yea it's the only time i have to cum on here~ lol ~(when hubbys asleep) he likes ME to spend time with him AND SHAIT....~BOO~ watchin TV ~BOO~ and...:sleeping: gosh i hate TV...well.. HECK guess its time 4 beddy bi ~~see ya all ~~~L8ter~~~nite nite:sleeping:

[Kilrtoy]

LOL ~yea it's the only time i have to cum on here~ lol ~(when hubbys asleep) he likes ME to spend time with him AND SHAIT....~BOO~ watchin TV ~BOO~ and...:sleeping: gosh i hate TV...well.. HECK guess its time 4 beddy bi ~~see ya all ~~~L8ter~~~nite nite:sleeping:
Your killing me with the words girl:redface:

[EAZYKILLER2006]

Your killing me with the words girl:redface:
k heres a story be4bed
~ lol~ i have the "friends" 10 year episode...not sure if u every watched that show...well ...ON one episode... there was "joey" not understanding how to use "quotes" properly...well anyways ...all my "funny words" are learned from my sons ...i feel like "joey" cus i still cant figure out.....:supp: how and when to use the "word" lol "word" last fraze i heard my son say, was ..."yea man wicked" then he said "word."...:( ???? with pause between them ???? lol oh well kids...can i say BOO again lol

[uselessgrant]

like i said 2 pages ago 12 years of hell..:hammerhea :argue: :sleeping:

[lucky]

I know a lot of people don't agree with this, but....... I will say it.....
I do not think marriage means anything. It does not mean you love the person anymore or less. If I look at the people around me I'd say at least 50% of the relationships seemed fine until they got married. Not sure why it changes something, and not saying it does for each relationship, but it does for at least half ( in my surroundings) . Andy and I had a lot of ups and downs as I am sure most relationships have. Esp. when two people come together at a young age and take on personality changing careers. People grow up, I sure know I have. Esp over the last 1 1/2 since we separated. Never been on my own. Moved straight out of my parents house into a condo that Andy and I bought together. After being together for a couple yrs and not having the best relationship, we brought a child into this world. Which I would not take back for anything. But whether we got married or not, after having a child together we are forever in each others lives. We got married because our parents wanted us to and so that I could be under his insurance ( dumb , we know ). They didnt exactly believe in having kids and not being married. I did love him, and we could have tried harder to work it out. But when he was ready to, I was not. And when I was ready to he wasnt. So here we are, a month away from the divorce being final. Luckily we each agreed on pretty much everything as far as the house, cars etc. And even though we have divided our things, we would each let the other use a car, trailer or whatever if they needed to.
Now after getting carried away, in my case it is different. Just because we had two kids. But I do not care to get married again. Nor do I care to put my name on a house/car/trailer/boat/etc with someone else. I don't want to go through all of this again. I would like one more kid, possibly two, but I do not think that is going to happen. Just one more thing to tie me to another person. I am happy I have two beauitful/healthy kids. It sucks going through all this and the kids now having different rules from one house to another... sucks having the kids ask me when I am going to move back in with Daddy etc. It hurts. I do not wish any of this upon anyone. Maybe one day I will get married and possibly have children, not saying it is totally out of the question, just saying it will take someone extremely special to make me re-think it.
So what's next for me? About to step into a good Career. It is going to be stressful over the next 6 months, but in the end I will have a great career with great benefits. I will without a doubt be able to take care of myself and my two wonderful kids . Hopefully within the next couple yrs I will be able to buy a house again for the kids and I. I am just looking to get my life back on track. And have some security. Whether I have a man there or not it doesnt matter. I need to do what is best for the kids and I right now. I need to give them back a normal life. Well as normal as it can be. So getting married is last on my list.
so how do you feel about meaningless , causual sex ? lmao -- Never mind this ***boat , of course its ok :)

[Parker Dreamin]

Love being married, love having 2 girls, and love looking at other hot chicks and the wife has no problem with it. Boils down to respect, and we both have it for each other....

[callbob4homes]

lots of country song lyrics in some of these stories...................:idea: :supp:

[OSidePat]

The Marriage is great and so are my two daughters Luv to check out hot chicks and so does my wife .we be vry happy !

[riverbound]

I know a lot of people don't agree with this, but....... I will say it.....
I do not think marriage means anything. It does not mean you love the person anymore or less. If I look at the people around me I'd say at least 50% of the relationships seemed fine until they got married. Not sure why it changes something, and not saying it does for each relationship, but it does for at least half ( in my surroundings) . Andy and I had a lot of ups and downs as I am sure most relationships have. Esp. when two people come together at a young age and take on personality changing careers. People grow up, I sure know I have. Esp over the last 1 1/2 since we separated. Never been on my own. Moved straight out of my parents house into a condo that Andy and I bought together. After being together for a couple yrs and not having the best relationship, we brought a child into this world. Which I would not take back for anything. But whether we got married or not, after having a child together we are forever in each others lives. We got married because our parents wanted us to and so that I could be under his insurance ( dumb , we know ). They didnt exactly believe in having kids and not being married. I did love him, and we could have tried harder to work it out. But when he was ready to, I was not. And when I was ready to he wasnt. So here we are, a month away from the divorce being final. Luckily we each agreed on pretty much everything as far as the house, cars etc. And even though we have divided our things, we would each let the other use a car, trailer or whatever if they needed to.
Now after getting carried away, in my case it is different. Just because we had two kids. But I do not care to get married again. Nor do I care to put my name on a house/car/trailer/boat/etc with someone else. I don't want to go through all of this again. I would like one more kid, possibly two, but I do not think that is going to happen. Just one more thing to tie me to another person. I am happy I have two beauitful/healthy kids. It sucks going through all this and the kids now having different rules from one house to another... sucks having the kids ask me when I am going to move back in with Daddy etc. It hurts. I do not wish any of this upon anyone. Maybe one day I will get married and possibly have children, not saying it is totally out of the question, just saying it will take someone extremely special to make me re-think it.
So what's next for me? About to step into a good Career. It is going to be stressful over the next 6 months, but in the end I will have a great career with great benefits. I will without a doubt be able to take care of myself and my two wonderful kids . Hopefully within the next couple yrs I will be able to buy a house again for the kids and I. I am just looking to get my life back on track. And have some security. Whether I have a man there or not it doesnt matter. I need to do what is best for the kids and I right now. I need to give them back a normal life. Well as normal as it can be. So getting married is last on my list.
I agree with this. I would say most people that get married at a young age (myself included) havent actually finished growing up yet. Then all of a sudden one day you wake up and realize that your other is one person and you are a totally different person.

[Dezertrider]

Your tellin me, I know too many people going through divorces right now.. and I have friends that I know are cheating on their wife/hubby and that are being cheated on. :hammerhea
My divorce will be final in a month, but it doesn't really change much since we have two young kids together.
Every one I know gets divorced around 30yo, I was married for 9 years 6 months, Got out just before 10 years saving that alimony for life thing. I got the newer better model!!!! I should of gotten divorced years earlier. The divorce sucked a$$$$ but I look back on the divorce as the greatist thing that ever happend to me. Divorce happens regardless of your lifestyle.

[Trailer Park Casanova]

Every one I know gets divorced around 30yo, I was married for 9 years 6 months, Got out just before 10 years saving that alimony for life thing. I got the newer better model!!!! I should of gotten divorced years earlier. The divorce sucked a$$$$ but I look back on the divorce as the greatist thing that ever happend to me. Divorce happens regardless of your lifestyle.
Same here, though I pushed it over 10 years, and it cost lots of $$$.
Glad I left her.

[EAZYKILLER2006]

Every one I know gets divorced around 30yo, I was married for 9 years 6 months, Got out just before 10 years saving that alimony for life thing. I got the newer better model!!!! I should of gotten divorced years earlier. The divorce sucked a$$$$ but I look back on the divorce as the greatist thing that ever happend to me. Divorce happens regardless of your lifestyle.
wow all i can say is...... glad .....u did what was rite 4 u...we "are married "~but~WE just want to have fun in life... neither of us go "looking for sex.".. we just have an agreement that.... we wont "let sex " or ~"whatever"~ break us up...and really, when u think about it ...WHATEVER WENT WRONG "in anyones marriage" (to cause a divorce....) could go WRONG WITH THE NEXT MARRAIGE...so whats the point? all i know iS.... we are happy ....having a blast , and this "swing thing " works for us...we get to meet alot of ppl who party...(have fun with out tripping) .....WE IS HAVING SO "FRIGGIN WAY FUN TIMES!"!! LIFE IS TOO SHORT PARTY ON...YEA!!!!:) http://i133.photobucket.com/albums/q71/eazykiller2006/dontrememberthisone.jpg

[Devil's Advocate]

Love being married, love having 2 girls, and love looking at other hot chicks and the wife has no problem with it. Boils down to respect, and we both have it for each other....
That's the ticket.:wink:

[No Name]

YEPPER RITE ON...LOL:mix:
:confused: --------> http://i133.photobucket.com/albums/q71/eazykiller2006/KCandlaurie.jpg <------- VERY NICE :)

[EAZYKILLER2006]

[QUOTE=Bre;2293961]I know a lot of people don't agree with this, but....... I will say it.....
I do not think marriage means anything. It does not mean you love the person anymore or less. If I look at the people around me I'd say at least 50% of the relationships seemed fine until they got married. Not sure why it changes something, and not saying it does for each relationship, but it does for at least half ( in my surroundings) . Andy and I had a lot of ups and downs as I am sure most relationships have. Esp. when two people come together at a young age and take on personality changing careers. People grow up, I sure know I have. Esp over the last 1 1/2 since we separated. Never been on my own. Moved straight out of my parents house into a condo that Andy and I bought together. After being together for a couple yrs and not having the best relationship, we brought a child into this world. Which I would not take back for anything. But whether we got married or not, after having a child together we are forever in each others lives. We got married because our parents wanted us to and so that I could be under his insurance ( dumb , we know ). They didnt exactly believe in having kids and not being married. I did love him, and we could have tried harder to work it out. But when he was ready to, I was not. And when I was ready to he wasnt. So here we are, a month away from the divorce being final. Luckily we each agreed on pretty much everything as far as the house, cars etc. And even though we have divided our things, we would each let the other use a car, trailer or whatever if they needed to.
Now after getting carried away, in my case it is different. Just because we had two kids. But I do not care to get married again. Nor do I care to put my name on a house/car/trailer/boat/etc with someone else. I don't want to go through all of this again. I would like one more kid, possibly two, but I do not think that is going to happen. Just one more thing to tie me to another person. I am happy I have two beauitful/healthy kids. It sucks going through all this and the kids now having different rules from one house to another... sucks having the kids ask me when I am going to move back in with Daddy etc. It hurts. I do not wish any of this upon anyone. Maybe one day I will get married and possibly have children, not saying it is totally out of the question, just saying it will take someone extremely special to make me re-think it.
So what's next for me? About to step into a good Career. It is going to be stressful over the next 6 months, but in the end I will have a great career with great benefits. I will without a doubt be able to take care of myself and my two wonderful kids . Hopefully within the next couple yrs I will be able to buy a house again for the kids and I. I am just looking to get my life back on track. And have some security. Whether I have a man there or not it doesnt matter. I need to do what is best for the kids and I right now. I need to give them back a normal life. Well as normal as it can be. So getting married is last on my list.
man , i missed all these "kewl posts'...ppls views and thoughts...kinda neat to see what other ppl think..."you BRE " really seem to have your shait together...thats really great!!! some of the other stuff on here is to long... so i didnt get to read them ...CUZ~~~darn, i almost burnt the cookies ... well heck! guess ya all havent been married as long as me and hubby ...sooo ya cant really say anything.... cus ya havent been married as long as us...but if u ever do, make it to 26 years with someone ,and are as happy as us ...let me know...

[Trailer Park Casanova]

My wife and I are a team.
I catch myself going into Ass#ole mode and usually snap outta it in time.
Feels so good the next day thinking to myself: "Damn, I'm glad I didn't say that to her".
She has no perception of meaness or cruelty and jerks to her are like water off a ducks back.
A successfull marriage takes work. I found that out the hard way.
I'm sure this marriage will go the distance.
No cheating, no desires for anyone else. All love and teamwork.
Lucky as hell to have this girl,, and holding that thought, appreciating every minute I'm with her.

[uselessgrant]

still 12 years of hell