Am I an a$$hole?

[adjones419]

Need some advice/opinions...I'm a young guy...
Had been dating a girl for over a year now, and things we're going well. I've been dragboat racing for several years now (been doing it before I met her), but now all of a sudden if I go racing this weekend she's done with me...makes it sound like it's the worst thing in the world I could possibly be doing. I think it's pretty shitty on her part to give me an ultimatum to say choose racing or me. Needless to say, I'm leaving in the morning to head to the track. Am I just being a selfish dickhead or what? Just wanted some input from outside sources. :confused:

[RitcheyRch]

Why is it that SOME women always try to change us guys.

[Wizard29]

Granted this is only one side of the story, but if it is all true, then I'd take your side.
If she knew boat racing was your thing when you got together, then that's part of the package. If she didn't like it and knew she wouldn't accept it in the future, then she never should have taken this much of an interest in you.
It's been said that guys get together with girls hoping they won't change. Girls get together with guys hoping they will.
And by the way, if you were to bend on this one at this point, it'll be all downhill from there. Give an inch, take a mile sort of thing.

[MRS FLYIN VEE]

I think you are doing the right thing by going. If she can't handle dealing with something you love to do then she has a problem. Also have you asked her to participate in some way? If not maybe she would be more open minded if she could help or do something to help . Just my .02

[fatboy95]

Never give up what you enjoy for a chick. Have fun at the track and before you know it....a very fine mature lady will enter your life.:D

[axkiker]

Just lie and tell her shes right and that you are not going to race any more. Nail her on more time friday night then get up saturday AM and say hey guess what. I lied get the f#@k out of my bed beotch im going racing.
women = crazy

[My Man's Sportin' Wood]

If it's not a birthday, anniversary, family reunion, class reunion or something big, then she is being unreasonable. If she just doesn't want you to go for no particular reason, then she is the a$$hole. However, if there is something else that is important to her that is going on, then I can't say without more of the story.

[photo chick]

Dump her! If she doesn't like racing it'll never work, not sure why she dated you in the beginning if she didn't want you to race. Sounds like she's a control freak. I would never ask a man to change...especially something he loved to do no matter how dangerous it is. Maybe she's jealous of your boat!:jawdrop: :)
Go racing, meet someone new and never call her again, make her eat her ultimatum:)

[sleekcraft80]

This is the reason I don't have a woman in my life. All the ones I meet, the first thing that comes out of there mouth is "Get Rid Of The Boats". If she can't appreciate what you like to do for fun and won't share that with you then tell her to take a hike

[adjones419]

I think that she might be jealous a bit, I do spend a lot of time working on my boat and she has a hard time dealing with that. I invite her to go, and when she finally decides to go she pouts the whole time and is in a pissy mood...makes me feel guilty for even being in the boat. So I think the right decision has been made about the split, just wanted some closure on the issue. Thanks a lot everyone, and you can bet I'll have fun at the race this weekend!

[photo chick]

A lot of women are attention freaks.....not me though :rolleyes: It's too bad she can't get involved and enjoy it as much as you. Maybe if you take her to a race and introduce her to everyone she'll have a blast and want you to race? I take it though you've probably already taken her a few times.
Hey you changed your post while I was answering you! Good luck and yeah no one wants a pissy girlfriend/boyfriend at the races with them.......
[QUOTE=photo chick;2606733]Maybe she's jealous of your boat!QUOTE]
I think that's part of it, I do spend a lot of time working on my boat and she has a hard time dealing with that.

[adjones419]

Granted this is only one side of the story, but if it is all true, then I'd take your side.
If she knew boat racing was your thing when you got together, then that's part of the package. If she didn't like it and knew she wouldn't accept it in the future, then she never should have taken this much of an interest in you.
It's been said that guys get together with girls hoping they won't change. Girls get together with guys hoping they will.
And by the way, if you were to bend on this one at this point, it'll be all downhill from there. Give an inch, take a mile sort of thing.
That all makes sense more than anything I've heard in a long time!

[ratso]

She needs a hobby or friends. Back when we all raced motocross for years, my wife always went along.;) After a few years she stopped going.:jawdrop: She found a new hobby... his name was Rob...:D

[adjones419]

A lot of women are attention freaks.....not me though :rolleyes: It's too bad she can't get involved and enjoy it as much as you. Maybe if you take her to a race and introduce her to everyone she'll have a blast and want you to race? I take it though you've probably already taken her a few times.
Hey you changed your post while I was answering you! Good luck and yeah no one wants a pissy girlfriend/boyfriend at the races with them.......
[QUOTE=adjones419;2606743]
I did an edit because the quote thing showed up wrong...sorry about that.
For some reason though, I get the impression that she thinks we're just a bunch of idiot dragboat racers, actually she's told me that...I guess she's better than all of us?

[adjones419]

She needs a hobby or friends. Back when we all raced motocross for years, my wife always went along.;) After a few years she stopped going.:jawdrop: She found a new hobby... his name was Rob...:D
That's what I told her...call your friends, go shopping, go out and have a good time and I'll see you on Sunday. She just didn't see it that way though.
And wow, I feel sorry for Rob :devil: :D

[HavaSkank]

In the inspiring words of a brilliant philosopher Tom Leykis....
DUMP THAT BITCH!

[Cigalert]

Mr. Adjones this one's for you.
When I was 23 I met a chick, rediculous, smokin hot, Holy Jababees. She was a CPA by day and a pornstar at night. For me, she was a complete package.
Long story boring, I started a band long before I even knew she existed. After a few years she got a job offer she couldn't refuse and gave me an ultiatum to move to phoenix with her or stay in SoCal and "play my little music". After a meeting with a few of the A&R guy from record labels and a few other casting people backstage after a showcase at the whiskey, I let her ass ramble on to phoenix alone. 2 weeks later got an offer on the table from the record label, 3 days later my singer says "I'm getting married...I quit".
No more band and an amazing chick moved away.
I don't regret staying, I had my shot at a once in a lifetime deal and if I chose her I would probably still curse her for even existing.

[Old school Ultra]

If it is like this now, Could you imagine if you marry her and have kids, You still need a life of your own or you will hold it against her and she will end up with half of all your stuff.....
When I met my wife I worked alot of weird hours and played alot, Now 8 years and 2 kids later she tells me to " get your friends and go the lake"... But leave me shopping $$$
Once again quoting the ancient philosopher "Dump That Beotch"

[Mrs.Racer277]

Need some advice/opinions...I'm a young guy...
Had been dating a girl for over a year now, and things we're going well. I've been dragboat racing for several years now (been doing it before I met her), but now all of a sudden if I go racing this weekend she's done with me...makes it sound like it's the worst thing in the world I could possibly be doing. I think it's pretty shitty on her part to give me an ultimatum to say choose racing or me. Needless to say, I'm leaving in the morning to head to the track. Am I just being a selfish dickhead or what? Just wanted some input from outside sources. :confused:
Good luck this weekend.
I think you are doing the right thing....My hubby has been involved in many different aspects of racing..... jet skis, dirt bikes, shifter carts, drag boats, cars, desert racing. I would never ask him to choose racing over me...I sometimes go or I find other things to do with my friends...She is being very selfish.
Just my .02 :) Again Good Luck

[wright27]

If a woman wants you to stop doing what you love, that is the first sign she going to do nothing but try and control your life. You will become miserable. Walk now and save yourself years of wasted time.

[Big Warlock]

I know you"ll miss her for awhile..........but it's time to say goodbye. There are a ton of women out there that want to be with you! Good luck!

[adjones419]

Everything I'm hearing here is what I've been thinking, it's just nice to hear it from other people sometimes. I am planning on moving out west when I finish graduate school, and she wants to stay in the Midwest to be close to her family...no thanks! I guess no matter how much you care about someone, sometimes you just have to cut your losses and move on.

[photo chick]

[QUOTE=adjones419;2606757For some reason though, I get the impression that she thinks we're just a bunch of idiot dragboat racers, actually she's told me that...I guess she's better than all of us?[/QUOTE]
OK I hate her now!!! Idiot dragboat racers?.......DUMP THE BITCH! We are the most intelligent people around! :)

[Mrs.Racer277]

OK I hate her now!!! Idiot dragboat racers?.......DUMP THE BITCH! We are the most intelligent people around! :)
LMAO :D

[HM]

You are a typical insensititive male that is obviously very selfish about your own needs. You want to be alone and give up love for something as silly as racing a boat, then by all means, be as shallow as a puddle and do what YOU want. Men like you give men a bad name in general and make it more difficult on us that truly love women because we are punished for what you do. Women are justified in the skepticism...nay, their cynicism of men in general because of pigs like you....
aaaarrrrggggg!!!!!!! The anger sharks are swimming in my head!.......YOU GOTTA DUMP THAT BITCH! YOU GOTTA DUMP THAT BITCH!!!
This message brought to you by Fukitol. :D
Seriously...you needed us to tell you she was a high maintenance control freak?
Does she like anal?

[superdave013]

well I used to drag boat race. I asked my girl to marry me at the end of the season in '96. After the first rounds on Saturday she walks up to get a peek at the time slips like she always did. She came back telling me we have to change our wedding date. :eek:
Why I asked??? She said it's the same date as the '97 season NJBA opener. lol I knew I had a winner but that sealed the deal right there. I missed that race and am still happy to this day.
I'd say move on and you'll know when you find the right girl for you and your lifestyle.

[photo chick]

LMAO :D
Don't you agree Dia.....

[roostwear]

Generally speaking, girls are dream killers. Although it may START OUT differently, ultimately they have no regard for you achieving your goals, just that their security isn't threatened. If/when you find the exception, that's your keeper. Until then........ DTB
OK, show of hands..... who missed the first two words of my post?

[Mrs.Racer277]

Don't you agree Dia.....
100% :)

[adjones419]

Don't worry guys, we already broke up...I just wanted to hear that I'm not a huge a$$hole since that's what she's been telling me for the past week or so. I figured ***boat would be cheaper than talking to a shrink since I just wanted to make sure I'm not a crazy, selfish, self-centered idiot. :devil: :)

[HM]

Don't worry guys, we already broke up...I just wanted to hear that I'm not a huge a$$hole since that's what she's been telling me for the past week or so. I figured ***boat would be cheaper than talking to a shrink since I just wanted to make sure I'm not a crazy, selfish, self-centered idiot. :devil: :)
Don't worry, I don't think you are a huge asshole. I'd say you were about an average asshole. But, keep posting and you can work on becoming a better asshole. :D

[Wizard29]

So she's saying you are an asshole. So what?
My response would be, "I'm now a single asshole that's still going to the races."
If she's going to treat you with that kind of disrespect, save yourself the aggravation and don't talk to her any more. If it's over, it's over. Let it be over.
Easier said than done, I know, but it's the most logical thing to do anyway.
On the other hand, you may have taught her a lesson. You've shown her you won't back down and you are your own person. Some girls come to respect that and then accept it. Some don't. Let's see which one she is...

[HavaSkank]

I dated a guy who was a wanna-be rockstar. 5 minutes after climbing off the dude, he starts telling me about his dreams to cut an album and tour the US, to play at festivals and coffee houses.
I caught my breath, grabbed my clothes and said, "wow, Im really NOT the girl for you."
I had to explain that I would DEFINATELY be the dream killer in that relationship. God bless him for his dreams, but it was something I was not interesting in being a part of. I knew he had marginal talent and it's a competive industry. He was 38 and it seemed a bit ridiculous to chase the dream, at that stage of his life.
He was shocked I could be so candid. I told him, "You need some hippie chick that finds your dreams exciting and romantic, that's definately not me."
I then explained I wasnt in the man-changing business OR the dream-killing business...but with him both would be required.
NEXT!

[CARLSON-JET]

Here's you... Buh Bye! :D
Where is the race.. ?? Good luck! Be safe and have fun. R.B.

[Caribbean Jet]

She obviously was not the one. The real one will love you for what you enjoy doing and support that. I have a great wife who does not enjoy the desert and riding as much as I do, but she encourages me to have fun and be safe.

[bocco]

There is a country song that applies here. It's called "I'm gonna miss her".
Actually there's a country song for just about every one of lifes problems.

[roostwear]

I dated a guy who was a wanna-be rockstar. 5 minutes after climbing off the dude, he starts telling me about his dreams to cut an album and tour the US, to play at festivals and coffee houses.
I caught my breath, grabbed my clothes and said, "wow, Im really NOT the girl for you."
I had to explain that I would DEFINATELY be the dream killer in that relationship. God bless him for his dreams, but it was something I was not interesting in being a part of. I knew he had marginal talent and it's a competive industry. He was 38 and it seemed a bit ridiculous to chase the dream, at that stage of his life.
He was shocked I could be so candid. I told him, "You need some hippie chick that finds your dreams exciting and romantic, that's definately not me."
I then explained I wasnt in the man-changing business OR the dream-killing business...but with him both would be required.
NEXT!
Good for you!

[wright27]

There is a country song that applies here. It's called "I'm gonna miss her".
Actually there's a country song for just about every one of lifes problems.
Brad Paisley. That is a great song:)

[adjones419]

She obviously was not the one. The real one will love you for what you enjoy doing and support that. I have a great wife who does not enjoy the desert and riding as much as I do, but she encourages me to have fun and be safe.
Amen to that. I would think that someone who cares about you would say "Have fun, be safe, and I'll see you on Sunday" even if deep down she truly hated it. Guess I'm just being somewhat idealistic though, who knows.:idea:
The race is on Creve Coeur Lake in St. Louis with the SLDBA.

[Chipster27]

Why is it that SOME women always try to change us guys.
Men marry women hoping they won't change
Women marry men hoping they will change
The ultimatum is BS. Find one that enjoys your interests or at least doesn't prohibit you from participating in them. Hate to see this happen, but it's better now than down the road.

[meaniam]

Need some advice/opinions...I'm a young guy...
Had been dating a girl for over a year now, and things we're going well. I've been dragboat racing for several years now (been doing it before I met her), but now all of a sudden if I go racing this weekend she's done with me...makes it sound like it's the worst thing in the world I could possibly be doing. I think it's pretty shitty on her part to give me an ultimatum to say choose racing or me. Needless to say, I'm leaving in the morning to head to the track. Am I just being a selfish dickhead or what? Just wanted some input from outside sources. :confused:
tell her not to wait for the weekend be gone!!!!!!!! then tell her ya love her and that not what you want but. it appears she has no dedication to the relationship and what makes you happy.
hit that mofo reverse on her and see which way she spins:D

[Baja Big Dog]

I dated a guy who was a wanna-be rockstar. 5 minutes after climbing off the dude, he starts telling me about his dreams to cut an album and tour the US, to play at festivals and coffee houses.
I caught my breath, grabbed my clothes and said, "wow, Im really NOT the girl for you."
I had to explain that I would DEFINATELY be the dream killer in that relationship. God bless him for his dreams, but it was something I was not interesting in being a part of. I knew he had marginal talent and it's a competive industry. He was 38 and it seemed a bit ridiculous to chase the dream, at that stage of his life.
He was shocked I could be so candid. I told him, "You need some hippie chick that finds your dreams exciting and romantic, that's definately not me."
I then explained I wasnt in the man-changing business OR the dream-killing business...but with him both would be required.
NEXT!
Dam Skank...look where Rod Stewart is now!!!:D

[syke-o]

tell her to go kick rocks, or go pound sand...

[Baja Big Dog]

I cant believe 44 posts and nobody figured it out...
Its a case of LITTLEDICK syndrome. Make yourself happy with what you got...It took years of therapy for me to deal with this "not so rare" phenomena!!

[HavaSkank]

Dam Skank...look where Rod Stewart is now!!!:D
Smiling with a belly full of baby batter?

[zudnic]

My ex-girlfriend was like this pulling if you go I'll leave you, etc. In retrospect I'm glad I did'nt buy into her BS and I'm glad I cheated on her as well, both times, ok and the third, maybe fourth as well! :idea: :D I'm an a$$hole but not for pursuing other interests, that she did not enjoy.......

[Dave C]

Right on!! We have a winner here folks.... turn that motha right around and lay the f-ing guilt trip on her.......
Thats the way to do it.....
tell her not to wait for the weekend be gone!!!!!!!! then tell her ya love her and that not what you want but. it appears she has no dedication to the relationship and what makes you happy.
hit that mofo reverse on her and see which way she spins:D

[Baja Big Dog]

Were gonna need some pictures...to make sure we are on the look out for another wack-o....:mad:

[707dog]

way to grab you ballz and tell her to kick gravel...shit bro if you got plans to move out west there is plenty of azz out here thats unspoken for i got a lady and i still get it thrown at me so a single dude would have no probs..
good luck on your race and win that foker in the name of your fredom:D :D

[dumbandyoung]

Why is it that SOME women always try to change us guys.
Girls are retarded. Instead of finding the guy they want; 99.9% of them look for the guy with a few qualities they like end then try to change them into exactly what they want. Then when they realize they bit off more than they can chew, they dump him or start cheating on him.
0.1% actually except a guy for who he is.

[MRS FLYIN VEE]

Girls are retarded. Instead of finding the guy they want; 99.9% of them look for the guy with a few qualities they like end then try to change them into exactly what they want. Then when they realize they bit off more than they can chew, they dump him or start cheating on him.
you seem to know this from experience.. Maybe it was just you. Not ALL girls are retarded.

[dumbandyoung]

you seem to know this from experience.. Maybe it was just you. Not ALL girls are retarded.
I didn't say all. I clearly stated 99.9% are stupid.

[MR HARLEY]

you seem to know this from experience.. Maybe it was just you. Not ALL girls are retarded.
Naw he is more into swapping spit with his boyfriends. :D

[dumbandyoung]

Naw he is more into swapping spit with his boyfriends. :D
your funny. did boyfriend try to give you a cream pie in the ass again?:idea: If not whats your problem today? :confused:

[Mrs.Racer277]

I didn't say all. I clearly stated 99.9% are stupid.
You are REALLY digging yourself a hole :confused: :confused: :devil:

[dumbandyoung]

You are REALLY digging yourself a hole :confused: :confused: :devil:
NO im not, just trying to bring some excitement.:D
And you all must realize Im speaking of women between 20 and 25? (My age group) So dont get offended.

[MR HARLEY]

your funny. did boyfriend try to give you a cream pie in the ass again?:idea: If not whats your problem today? :confused:
Nope, I actually creampied in your moms Eye this morning, and it has me a bit bent cuz I didnt hit her mouth where I usually like to deposit my sample. ;)
Problem? Your posts are the problem there Champ.

[Mrs.Racer277]

NO im not, just trying to bring some excitement.:D
I REALLY don't think you want to take on Mrs.V :eek: :confused:

[Tom Brown]

I haven't read any of the posts in this thread but I will share my opinion.
Yes, you are an asshole.

[dumbandyoung]

Nope, I actually creampied in your moms Eye this morning, and it has me a bit bent cuz I didnt hit her mouth where I usually like to deposit my sample. ;)
Problem? Your posts are the problem there Champ.
Wow.. good one. :rolleyes:
I have the right to post what ever opinion I want. So go ahead and fock your self dude. I never asked you to chime in. If want to talk shit go ahead. Dont get mad when i say shit back.

[MR HARLEY]

Wow.. good one. :rolleyes:
I have the right to post what ever opinion I want. So go ahead and fock your self dude. I never asked you to chime in. If want to talk shit go ahead. Dont get mad when i say shit back.
Fish On!!! :D

[HM]

It is quite entertaining how dumbandyoung always lives up to his screen name. Atlease we can't say he didn't warn us! :D

[dumbandyoung]

It is quite entertaining how dumbandyoung always lives up to his screen name. Atlease we can't say he didn't warn us! :D
;)
Yeah, You know Im sure we can go all day long with this. Unfortunately I'm over it. I said what I had to say and now.... Later :)

[MRS FLYIN VEE]

I REALLY don't think you want to take on Mrs.V :eek: :confused:
LMAO!! :D

[Kilrtoy]

I REALLY don't think you want to take on Mrs.V :eek: :confused:
Oh Hell No,
I do, from the front , from the back, from the side, hell even from underneath:D :D :D :D

[HM]

;)
Yeah, You know Im sure we can go all day long with this. Unfortunately I'm over it. I said what I had to say and now.... Later :)
Should we get the shark ready? :D

[MRS FLYIN VEE]

NO im not, just trying to bring some excitement.:D
And you all must realize Im speaking of women between 20 and 25? (My age group) So dont get offended.
Proving your screen name to be correct once again. Sorry but you should have posted it was in connection with your teeny bopper age group.:)

[MR HARLEY]

Should we get the shark ready? :D
Yup. :D

[Devilman]

Proving your screen name to be correct once again. Sorry but you should have posted it was in connection with your teeny bopper age group.:)
"Teeny bopper".... LOL, my wife says that every now & then. :D :D :D

[MRS FLYIN VEE]

"Teeny bopper".... LOL, my wife says that every now & then. :D :D :D
LOL!! I use to be a teeny bopper.;) :D

[Devilman]

LOL!! I use to be a teeny bopper.;) :D
Pretty good one at that, huh? :devil: :jawdrop: :D

[MRS FLYIN VEE]

Pretty good one at that, huh? :devil: :jawdrop: :D
LOL!!:D :D

[ratso]

NO im not, just trying to bring some excitement.:D
And you all must realize Im speaking of women between 20 and 25? (My age group) So dont get offended.
Those are chicks... not women.;) ...and also a preference of mine.:D

[BajaMike]

Dump the bitch......:mad:

[dumbandyoung]

Those are chicks... not women.;) ...and also a preference of mine.:D
lmao!

[lucky]

Don't worry, I don't think you are a huge asshole. I'd say you were about an average asshole. But, keep posting and you can work on becoming a better asshole. :D
what you looking for a new date :) :D

[HM]

what you looking for a new date :) :D
what you getting your hopes up...mr. busted knuckly? :D

[lucky]

what you getting your hopes up...mr. busted knuckly? :D
No i have moved on to sheep :) Unless that includes EWEEESSSS lol

[centerhill condor]

you're an a$$hole (J/K) for dating the same girl for ayear! dude, trade up!

[HM]

No i have moved on to sheep :) Unless that includes EWEEESSSS lol
Cool...I can take down the poster at the midget club warning about the stalker from nor cal looking to break spokes on midgets. :D

[Racey]

This can only be a taste of things to come, go racing, put yourself first. If she decides she made a mistake it's up to her to come back. She's just testing you to see if you will bend.

[Cheyenne372]

If it's not a birthday, anniversary, family reunion, class reunion or something big, then she is being unreasonable. If she just doesn't want you to go for no particular reason, then she is the a$$hole. However, if there is something else that is important to her that is going on, then I can't say without more of the story.
So are you saying that there is no boat racing on those occassions listed in your post or when there is "...something else that is important to her that is going on".....?
WOW.....I'm going home and hug my wife because I got the pick of the litter....next weekend is Father's Day AND my son's birthday.....and guess where we're going.....
Lubbock, Texas to DRAG BOAT RACE......!!!!!
My wife doesn't want to go, but I've got a yard pass and plan on fully exercising it!
There is a country song that applies here. It's called "I'm gonna miss her".
Actually there's a country song for just about every one of lifes problems.
Yepper....and it's by Roy Clark and titled...
"....THANK GOD AND GREYHOUND SHE'S GONE..."
which would be more appropriate in this case.....:D
.
.
...:idea:

[lucky]

Cool...I can take down the poster at the midget club warning about the stalker from nor cal looking to break spokes on midgets. :D
amm no you should leave it up - midgets make me smile lol