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hd&boatrider
04-15-2004, 09:42 PM
Since all that gushy stuff was being posted thought I would start this one:
Married twice to women I should have known better about but WTF!
First one met thru work and married for 7.5 years. Had a son and that was the positive. Other than that should have known better and listened to the older brothers :)
Second one was a customer of mine. It was a major, major disaster. Money grubbing bitch was all it was. Lasted 3 years because I am a softie or it would have ended before it began. Worst mistake of my life.
Currently single and having fun. Never to be married again. I guess it weorks for all of you love-birds :) but it just isn't for me.
Are you all going aaaaawwwwwwww....lol

Cas
04-15-2004, 10:02 PM
on my 3rd, happily so far
1st, great lady. problem was we were too immature to get married and way too immature to get divorced. We're still good friends. No kids
2nd, sounds kinda like your ex. Mine put me in debt 60K, forged my sig on my business checks, got fired from Nordstroms for theft, fraud and embezzlement.......a real doosie! 3 kids that I got custody of.

Cas
04-15-2004, 10:33 PM
yea, I heard it but couldn't find a wealthy lady ;)

ratso
04-16-2004, 08:38 AM
...where the **** do I start?:D

Her454
04-16-2004, 08:45 AM
I really hate the fact I couldnt post in the other thread but could fill a whole page in this one. :D

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 08:49 AM
I'm sorry for everyones bad times.. but I hope the future for all of you is looking brighter with every day that comes around.. ;)

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 08:54 AM
Originally posted by titties and beer
buy the way ,my wifes mom has been married 8 times and her sister 3 times;) do you know how many weding gifes i'v bought?:(
should have just went to staples and got divorse papers .. J/K ;)

hoolign
04-16-2004, 08:56 AM
no comment:p

AdrenelineOD
04-16-2004, 08:56 AM
I met her when she was 17 (1992) and we`ve been happy ever since.:D Im her first love. thanks you make me feel lucky.;)

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 08:58 AM
Originally posted by hd&boatrider
Start with the 1st one and go from there....lol
too many to list.. LOL!! ;)

hd&boatrider
04-16-2004, 08:59 AM
Originally posted by MRS FLYIN VEE
I'm sorry for everyones bad times.. but I hope the future for all of you is looking brighter with every day that comes around.. ;)
My life is very bright....Thanks for the concern :)

hd&boatrider
04-16-2004, 09:00 AM
Originally posted by titties and beer
got married right out of h/s we had our ups and downs, had 2 kids, now have 3, one on the way grandkids ,26 years later still having fun;) :D
You are absolutely right to post here....Most marriages fail so yours is the exception...flip side of the coin if you will

hd&boatrider
04-16-2004, 09:02 AM
Originally posted by Her454
I really hate the fact I couldnt post in the other thread but could fill a whole page in this one. :D
Come on...spill it. I know what you mean....sad but true :)

AdrenelineOD
04-16-2004, 09:03 AM
Originally posted by hoolign
no comment:p aw C`mon

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 09:06 AM
Originally posted by hd&boatrider
My life is very bright....Thanks for the concern :)
your welcome sweety.. .;)

Desert Rat
04-16-2004, 09:06 AM
First one was a MAJOR F&%K up! Have a wonderful 21yo son in his last year of college out of the fiasco that my 2nd wife and my self raised (would probably be a junkie if stayed with his mom). Wife is my best friend!:)

FRENCHIE
04-16-2004, 09:21 AM
my parents marriage has taght me want not to do in mine! Im married, happy and stayin that way!:D

ratso
04-16-2004, 09:33 AM
Originally posted by hd&boatrider
Start with the 1st one and go from there....lol
#1. I met her in 1981, she had been a majorette at a rival high school and was dating my best friend at the time. Her mother had her in beauty pageants her entire life...Miss this and that, was in miss teen texas etc and so on. She ended up with a modeling contract in New York. My friend talked her into coming back and they got married. That lasted about three months and he started beating the living you know what out of her...he was a very angry person and I was in the middle of it a few times. We were all out one night and he hit her, she told him that was the last time he would ever lay a hand on her. She asked me to take her home...she got a few things, we had more drinks and ended up in a hotel room together...and we started from there. After a few fights with my friend and being thrown in jail a couple of times...he finally let go. We were married the next year and she got pregnant. We had a son, built a new home, and was together three years before everything fell apart. It was the bar scene...the drinking...her being young and beautiful and everybody wanting a piece of the action. Basically the same thing happened to me that happened to my friend...she started sleeping around with someone else and that is probably one of the lowest points in my life...devastated.:frown: We split and divorced although we kept seeing each other over the years in between my other relationships and marriages...and hers. She now lives in Tennessee and my son lives with me, I got custody of him in 1991. She has also been married five times...and currently is back with her first husband...that's right, my ex best friend. Sometimes it takes awhile to grow up as she puts it, and we always joke around about getting back together...since she has gone full circle, I guess I'm the next in line.:D She comes down about once a year and we talk on the phone about once a week, and I can honestly say she is one of my very best friends. Her life is good now, she makes clothing and jewelry for a bunch of country music singers and lives life to the fullest. It's too bad that the person she is now isn't the one I fell for years ago. She has turned into a very beautiful person, inside and out. She has a really nice boob job too...:D That about sums up #1 I guess.:)

Her454
04-16-2004, 09:40 AM
Originally posted by hd&boatrider
Come on...spill it. I know what you mean....sad but true :)
No thank you, I dont care to re-live it. Or have anyone else re-live it either. :D I just learn from my mistakes and move on. :)

Debbolas
04-16-2004, 09:50 AM
How many of your parents are still married?
BTW IMO
I just don't think you all have met the right person yet. When my first husband died and I was 5 months pregnant with Aly, I just KNEW I would never love again. Then when Aly was almost 2 I met Mr. Scream and my life continued. Surprised the hell out of me. I was just going to raise my kid, ya know...

Her454
04-16-2004, 09:57 AM
My parents were married 46 years. My mother died in my dads arms and he died 4 years later, he was never the same after she passed. They are now buried next to each other.

Debbolas
04-16-2004, 09:58 AM
my parents are so in love, I just know that will happen to them...

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 10:00 AM
Originally posted by Her454
My parents were married 46 years. My mother died in my dads arms and he died 4 years later, he was never the same after she passed. They are now buried next to each other.
I am so sorry about the loss.:( that is very sad. Usually the one dies shortley after because of a broken heart.. :( Rest their souls..

ratso
04-16-2004, 10:05 AM
My parents have been married 44 years.:D

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 10:07 AM
My parents just separated about 2 months ago.. but they have been married for 36 years..

Her454
04-16-2004, 10:09 AM
Originally posted by MRS FLYIN VEE
I am so sorry about the loss.:( that is very sad. Usually the one dies shortley after because of a broken heart.. :( Rest their souls..
YOu know, the only thing my dad would do after she passed away was go to the lake or the river. I "always" took him with us.
He was in a wheelchair and some friends of mine....1069 Dimarco and a few others (bless their hearts) picked my dad up and took him for 1/4 mile blast in a blown hydro. He died a month later. I'll never forget the smile on his face, he missed that stuff so much.
:):):) I try and make a pass for him every chance I get. :):)
Always Daddys Little Her454.

ratso
04-16-2004, 10:12 AM
Originally posted by MRS FLYIN VEE
My parents just separated about 2 months ago.. but they have been married for 36 years..
Why would someone want to start all over after 36 years together? Wow...
That's really none of our business I guess.
That has to be tough.:frown:

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 10:12 AM
Originally posted by Her454
YOu know, the only thing my dad would do after she passed away was go to the lake or the river. I "always" took him with us.
He was in a wheelchair and some friends of mine....1069 Dimarco and a few others (bless their hearts) picked my dad up and took him for 1/4 mile blast in a blown hydro. He died a month later. I'll never forget the smile on his face, he missed that stuff so much.
:):):) I try and make a pass for him every chance I get. :):)
That is great.. you are going to make me cry.. I am glad you have fond memories of both .. they will never go away.. I bet it always puts a smile on your face just seeing him in your memorie with the smile you all gave him with the pass you took him on..
once Daddy's little girl, always a daddy's girl..
Always Daddys Little Her454. ;) ;)

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 10:14 AM
Originally posted by ratso
Why would someone want to start all over after 36 years together? Wow...
That's really none of our business I guess.
That has to be tough.:frown:
there is alot to the story but it is not something I would post in fear of bashing and I can't have that .. so I will leave it at that.. ;)

Debbolas
04-16-2004, 10:23 AM
I'm sorry,
:(

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 10:27 AM
thanks.. but life goes on.. ;) ;)

topless
04-16-2004, 10:29 AM
Traci, your story of your parents just brought a tear to my eye. (don't tell anyone) Thanks for sharing. My parents are still married and if I ever marry Tom, it will be forever.
Seriously, you touched my heart.

Debbolas
04-16-2004, 10:31 AM
given how recent your parents divorce is, it was insensetive of me to bring up the how long have your parents been married thread, I was just currious about, couples staying married, and maybe their parents were still married.....stats....
sorry
:(

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 10:34 AM
don't be sorry sweety.. you didn't know about my situation and there is nothing to be sorry about.. that to me is between them although the family is involved but like I said.. life moves on so don't feel that way.. I have said in the past.. post what you want I do not take anything to heart unless it is directed towards me or my family as you saw last night.. so no worries..
now who elses parents are together and how many years.. ;)

HCS
04-16-2004, 10:39 AM
Everything you would ever want to know about everybody.:D
I'm with Her 454, I'd have to write a book. Don't have time when
I'm working. Lets just say threes a charm.
Got to keep it to one liners.;)

Ducatista
04-16-2004, 11:03 AM
Good grief......married 20 years this September........eh, or is it this October:confused: :D I'm a lucky man:cool:

Havasu_Dreamin
04-16-2004, 11:07 AM
My parents were married 35 years but my mom passed on 7-7-01. I still miss her and I always will! LOVE YOU MOM!

Debbolas
04-16-2004, 11:12 AM
My parents have been married almost 50 years, my sis and I have to start planning the party soon.....They still kiss and stuff, grosses me out! lol
:D

ratso
04-16-2004, 11:21 AM
#2...I met her in 85. I was actually seeing her sister off and on at the time, just for a good time. One night she said that she wanted me to meet her sister who was in from out of town. We hit it off immediately. Her mom had a place on the lake and we spent a lot of time with her and also her aunt and uncle. Her mom had a 4 or 5 year old daughter at the time that she had adopted. Her aunt and uncle had a 2 year old boy that they adopted. I thought she had a pretty cool family and grew real close to them. We lived with her aunt and uncle until our place was done...they had a huge 2 story home and we had the entire bottom floor to ourselves. We were married and things were good for about 6 months. One day she came to me and said she had something to tell me. The two children that her family adopted was actually her own kids but she didn't want to be tied down raising children, so they adopted them. Also she had been married 3 times before (she was only 20)...and she had a brain tumor. Her family was afraid to tell me anything because they were afraid of running me off, and I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I caught her in numerous lies afterwards too, which I won't go into detail. I left...she begged me to come back for months. We divorced and one day she left town and I haven't seen her since. I went to her son's graduation and she wasn't there. Over the years she has called to see how I'm doing...as recently as last year. She had an operation for her tumor after we split and she says she is doing well...who knows...

topless
04-16-2004, 11:34 AM
Ratso, how many more stories do you have? I think you need to write a book!

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-16-2004, 11:36 AM
I think he has 4 more.. I am waiting for chapter 3..:eek: :D

ratso
04-16-2004, 11:36 AM
Originally posted by topless
Ratso, how many more stories do you have? I think you need to write a book!
Too many to count, but I'm sticking to marriages only in this thread.:D

ratso
04-16-2004, 11:39 AM
Originally posted by MRS FLYIN VEE
I think he has 4 more.. I am waiting for chapter 3..:eek: :D
I'm going to have to leave for Dallas in less than an hour...might have to wait until tomorrow for #3. I'm trying to do condensed versions so I don't have to bore anyone with too many details...

topless
04-16-2004, 11:43 AM
Okay, heres my boring ass story.
I got married in when I was 22 in Texas, had 2 children, moved to California in 91, divorced in 93. Stayed here and he went back to Texas. The end:D

FMluvswater
04-16-2004, 12:03 PM
I married someone I didn't love 'that way' but I did it on purpose ... wanted same last name as the child we'd made. We didn't have enough in common to stay married but there's enough to maintain a casual distant friendship and there's our main common interest ... our son. Honestly I've never been in love. After everything I've heard I'm on the fence if I ever want be or not! :D
When my ex and I told our son we were divorcing, my little boy asked if I would still have the same name as him and when I said yes his smile of relief told me I had done the right thing in getting married in the first place even though the marriage didn't last. :)
I don't regret a thing.

Tom Brown
04-16-2004, 12:14 PM
Originally posted by topless
My parents are still married and if I ever marry Tom, it will be forever.
They may still be married but the last time we were at their place, your Mom propositioned me. :(

topless
04-16-2004, 12:16 PM
We are a very close family!:D

Tom Brown
04-16-2004, 12:19 PM
I must say your Mother is looking great.

hd&boatrider
04-16-2004, 12:25 PM
Originally posted by Her454
No thank you, I dont care to re-live it. Or have anyone else re-live it either. :D I just learn from my mistakes and move on. :)
Very well put H454 :)

topless
04-16-2004, 12:36 PM
Originally posted by Tom Brown
I must say your Mother is looking great.
You should hear what she says about your manhood! Now Dad went out and got a years worth of Viagra. Mom will never be the same.

MsDrmr
04-16-2004, 12:41 PM
Topeless , from my experience, I don't think your dad needs that viagra, and with your mom having Tom, it sounds like all is perfect

Tom Brown
04-16-2004, 12:44 PM
I'm the one who needs the viagra.

topless
04-16-2004, 12:47 PM
Originally posted by Tom Brown
I'm the one who needs the viagra.
To keep up with Mom you probablly do. Aren't you glad we don't visit them more than once a year?

Her454
04-16-2004, 04:29 PM
Originally posted by topless
Traci, your story of your parents just brought a tear to my eye. (don't tell anyone) Thanks for sharing. My parents are still married and if I ever marry Tom, it will be forever.
Seriously, you touched my heart.
I wont tell anyone about your weak moment Topless. :) Thanks. I miss my parents very much. Im very thankful I had parents that brought me up to have the opportunities in life that I had. I have 3 brothers and two sisters and we are all TOTAL opposites, completely. At my dads funeral my sister wrote a little poem for him and it said something about how we all felt different about him but what thing that is the same with all 6 is our love for the water and for boating. Kinda cool. My parents were not perfect but they were together forever, wish I could figure that out.
;)

Cas
04-16-2004, 07:22 PM
My Dad died in 1990, worst day of my life. About 4 years ago, just before moving to Sonoma, I was talking to someone that just struck up a conversation with me. The conversation was rather brief and for some reason I mentioned my Dad had died. This person told me I should open a window in my house and invite my Dad in to join us.
The suggestion left my head until we moved here to Sonoma, a place that my Dad truly loved. When I was doing the painting prior to us moving in, the suggestion popped back into my head so I opened the window. I then asked my Dad if he would like to join us in our new house....doing so would make it complete.
All I have to say is, he did join us, I felt him come in and he's still here :)
Every day that goes by something comes up that I'd love to share with him face to face. Even though I know that can't be right now, he will always lead me in the right direction.
Thanks Dad!

ratso
04-17-2004, 08:45 AM
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Cas
[B]My Dad died in 1990, worst day of my life. About 4 years ago, just before moving to Sonoma, I was talking to someone that just struck up a conversation with me. The conversation was rather brief and for some reason I mentioned my Dad had died. This person told me I should open a window in my house and invite my Dad in to join us.
The suggestion left my head until we moved here to Sonoma, a place that my Dad truly loved. When I was doing the painting prior to us moving in, the suggestion popped back into my head so I opened the window. I then asked my Dad if he would like to join us in our new house....doing so would make it complete.
All I have to say is, he did join us, I felt him come in and he's still here :)
Every day that goes by something comes up that I'd love to share with him face to face. Even though I know that can't be right now, he will always lead me in the right direction.
Awesome story Cas:D

Hal
04-17-2004, 09:13 AM
That was a great story. I am going to see if that will work for me.
Thanks.

Her454
04-17-2004, 09:25 AM
Cas, I can totally understand and relate to that story. I do NOT believe in the supernatural, UFO's or any of the other crap but I do have a story of my own. About 3 months after my mother passed, I was sitting at the kitchen table getting ready to bust out in tears. The stress of having my dad live with us now, the privacy issues which made marital issues, money, the loss of my mother, etc...were taking its toll. As I sat there crying I felt a hand on my shoulder, very soft and the scent of my mothers perfume. She always wore White Shoulders and it was unmistakeable. Startled the hell out of me and of course no one was there. But all of a sudden I got calm and things didnt seem that bad. I cant explain it and you'll probably think Im crazy but I know it was my mother giving the strength to go on. I have NEVER forgot that moment. :D

MRS FLYIN VEE
04-17-2004, 09:28 AM
I can relate to that.. it is true .. my grandmother as a matter a fact wore white shoulders also.. I have never felt her hand but I can smell the perfume every once in a while and it is conmfoting at times in need.. ;)

ratso
04-17-2004, 08:18 PM
#3... Met her through friends...WOW. 19, long black hair, perfect body...absolutely beautiful, loved to party and dance. I think we were married 6 months after we met. We had a huge wedding since this was her first one. Her dad flew in from California to give her away...her dad was actually disowned by some of his family for running off with his niece to California...thats right, his niece. After the wedding we flew out to California with him and stayed with him and his niece. We went to the San Jose State Fair, went on fisherman's wharf, saw Alcatraz, the Golden Gate Bridge...went to Tahoe, The Ponderosa Ranch, Virginia City, and Reno...awesome trip. When we got back to Texas she decided we needed to move her grandmother in with us. I didn't care for it too much since we were newlyweds...but what the hay. Not too long after that I noticed that she was drawing a lot of money out of savings every week or two...a lot. Seems her stepdad had her brainwashed into thinking that she owed him for raising her for the past 17 years...he was too lazy to work. Her mom's car had broken down and since she was the one supporting the family, my wife at the time said she wanted to buy her mom a new car. By now I'm starting to see more money going out than we had coming in, so I told her "no." Her dad needed to get off his ass and get a job and help support his family. I got the silent treatment for about two weeks...and she started being an ass to my son from my first marriage. Aside from her making my life miserable now, she decided she wanted to have a child now...This had already been discussed and we were going to wait 5 years first...to see how things go. Her best friend decided to tell me that my wife stopped her birth control and was trying to get pregnant...she felt I had a right to know. I was also informed that if I couldn't help support her family, she planned on leaving me. I asked her friend if she had been looking for a place to live and I was told she had been and where. The next day I went down, paid a deposit and 6 months rent up front, hired movers and had everything moved over there...furnished. She got home that night and I said lets go for a drive...we drove over to her new place, I got out of the car, pitched her the keys to the apartment and told her she would be served with divorce papers next week. Since then she has been married and divorced twice, had two kids, lost all her mom's savings on a business venture (her mom divorced when we did) and basically hooks up with guys and milks them for all she possibly can...she is very good at it too. We had about a week long fling a few years back...but she is so fake and I really just don't care to be anywhere around her anymore. That is one path of destruction you don't want to get in the way of. I'm going out for drinks. Talk to you tomorrow...

Her454
04-18-2004, 12:12 AM
Ratso.........your heart is your own worst enemy.:frown: I just broke my own rule.....no drinking and psting. Thats all I'll say.

Cas
04-18-2004, 08:06 AM
Originally posted by Her454
Cas, I can totally understand and relate to that story. I do NOT believe in the supernatural, UFO's or any of the other crap but I do have a story of my own. About 3 months after my mother passed, I was sitting at the kitchen table getting ready to bust out in tears. The stress of having my dad live with us now, the privacy issues which made marital issues, money, the loss of my mother, etc...were taking its toll. As I sat there crying I felt a hand on my shoulder, very soft and the scent of my mothers perfume. She always wore White Shoulders and it was unmistakeable. Startled the hell out of me and of course no one was there. But all of a sudden I got calm and things didnt seem that bad. I cant explain it and you'll probably think Im crazy but I know it was my mother giving the strength to go on. I have NEVER forgot that moment. :D
Great story Traci and I'm with you in not believing in that sort of thing....well, I didn't used to anyway. Whatever happened that day is ok with me :)
Hal,
It'll happen when you least expect it :)
ratso,
Sounds to me like I could've saved you from those 3, all you had to do was get hooked up with my ex. She's all 3 of those wrapped into one package :eek!:

Cas
04-18-2004, 08:14 AM
Originally posted by MRS FLYIN VEE
I can relate to that.. it is true .. my grandmother as a matter a fact wore white shoulders also.. I have never felt her hand but I can smell the perfume every once in a while and it is conmfoting at times in need.. ;)
I think each of us has had or will have an experience of some sort similar to what has been posted already. Whether it's a smell, a touch, some sort of visual.......something to make us feel "alright".

beyondhelpin
04-18-2004, 12:45 PM
Started dating mine when she was 15 and I was 16. Got her before anybody else messed up her head and was still trainable! I knew she was good for my dumbass when I would break up with her about every 6 months and sew some oats. She would not date anyone saying she knew I would be back. She could have just about any guys she wanted to boot.
She is 43 and looks in her late 20s. Add a smoking body and an adventurous spirit and I can honestly say she would be tough to beat.
She doesn't give me any shit if I want to go out with the boys even to the strip club. We hardly ever argue.......wait this is getting to sappy! Anyway I think I will keep her!
PS: I treat her very good and since I made the above reference to being a player I will say I have no desire to stray even if I could with no chance of getting caught.

ratso
04-18-2004, 02:02 PM
#4...She just called to let me know she will be in town next weekend...most of her family lives here. We actually first went out (once) in 1984, and she got married, had a son, and divorced. I was out at a local night spot in 1990 and they were showing videos on all these big screens of all these women in bikini contests. This one really stuck out...you know, perfect body and this long blonde hair. I was sitting next to the manager of the club and said "Who the heck is that?" He told me it was some girl named Lisa from Dallas, and she basically made a living doing that, traveling around and doing bikini contests and modeling for some car clubs. A few months later they were having a contest and she was there, and then I recognized her. She came up, asked how I've been and I invited her to go with a bunch of us to the lake the next day. It went on from that day forward and we were married a year later. I was getting my business off the ground, she was going to school to become a paralegal, she helped me get custody of my son and was the most outstanding mom he could have ever asked for...perfect mom, perfect wife, and we built a really nice life together. Whether it was motorcycle racing, boating, sports with the kids etc, she was involved 100%. We built a couple of new homes, had the sportscars, fancy trucks, custom motorcycles, dirt bikes, a boat business, motorcycle dealership, used car business...life was good, but it was also very very hectic and stressful with all that was going on. I was working it seemed like 24-7, trying to keep up with business, our moto-cross team, and it didn't leave much time for family...or her. She started going out nights with friends and partying, then 6 months after we built our last home, she told me she was leaving. Come to find out she was seeing someone from our gym, drugs were involved, and I basically didn't know her anymore. This was May of 1998, and our divorce was final in August. By now I was drinking what seemed like 24-7, didn't want to deal with business anymore and sold everything but my boat shop. By November her affair had ended and we would "hook up" every once in awhile. Life went on and I met someone else in February of 99 (I'll be careful to not overlap things too much here). She ended up moving to another town and taking another job with a law firm...but we always stayed in touch with each other and get together at times. She always talked about us getting back together and didn't realize how good we had it. But me...I could never bring myself to do it because of what had happened and the trust being gone now. Still to this day she will come into town and we will go out for drinks and hang out together. She is engaged to someone else, but has let me know that if I ever said the word she would be back. People that see us together say what a great couple we make, and the love is still there, I know that. She is an awesome, loving, caring person that made a huge mistake, and she tells me that she must have really screwed me up psychologically and emotionally because I won't give us a chance again. Well, she is right, between her and #5...and that's a whole nother story. She told me the other day that we will still be doing this when we are 80 years old. Something keeps bringing us together. We are very best friends...and maybe it's best things stay that way...

Kilrtoy
04-18-2004, 07:01 PM
HD&BOATRIDER
with all yopur toys, let the women use use and USE THEM RIGHT BACK, Shit you should have tons of young Broads

diggler
04-18-2004, 07:56 PM
Well, even though I'm 33 and never married, I do have a good story. Met this woman through a friend of mine when I was in college and only 20. She was 25 at the time, and drop dead gorgeous. She also had a mechanical engineering degree. Well, she was involved in the multi-level marketing schemes (pyramid scams), and she was trying to sell water filters. I ended up quitting college soon after I met her and we moved in to her mom's house, and then to her dad's house. (We were pretty broke as you can, but I was young at the time so what the hell!)
Anyways, she had a major drinking problem where she would binge dring at least once a month. After she was that wasted, she would attempt to kick the living shit out of me. Now, those of you that know me, know I'm not exactly a small fella. I'm very proud of myself to say that I never struck her. I ended up finishing college and got a good job. She was still drinking on occasion, and still attempting to kick the living shit out of me. I was engaged to her after four years, and the wedding was six months away. My family hated her because they knew she was bad (which I guess I even knew). My dad finally asked me if I could stay married to her for the rest of my life and I said "no". He then asked me what the hell I was doing.
Well, wake up call for me! I called my boss at Ford where I worked and asked if I could take a transfer overseas. I moved into my mother's house for two weeks, and then I completely abandoned her and everything I knew and went to work in England for Ford of Britain. After that, my entire life took off and I've had a lot of successes since then. She tried like hell for a year to find me, but no one would tell her where I went. I essentially disappeared off the face of the earth. After two years, I came back to the states. I've never heard from her since I first left overseas, and I truly believe it is definitely for the best.
Still not married or dating now, but there's always the future. Hope is awesome isn't it?

hd&boatrider
04-18-2004, 08:08 PM
Originally posted by Kilrtoy
HD&BOATRIDER
with all yopur toys, let the women use use and USE THEM RIGHT BACK, Shit you should have tons of young Broads
LOL....I do alright Kilrtoy :)
I just got out of a long relationship with a woman who had (3) young children. I have one grown boy (19). It was our second time around and we had a lot in common and so forth. Finally she broke it off because she said that I basically was not as attentive/sensitive as I once was. Bottom line IMO she was a extremely nice lady that I could party with, have romantic time with, have what I thought was true friendship, pal around time, could be casual or go to the Ritz Carlton, dance with and get silly with. I think we were just both at the end of the line because expectations for her were different than for me. I miss her but I know it is for the best.
I have a lot of women on the boat at times and will have a lot out at the River Run but basically I am pretty much a one woman kind of guy. Always have been always will be.

Her454
04-19-2004, 08:17 AM
Originally posted by hd&boatrider
I have a lot of women on the boat at times and will have a lot out at the River Run but basically I am pretty much a one woman kind of guy. Always have been always will be.
Sweet thing to say, even more awsome that you feel that way.:D

Her454
04-19-2004, 08:19 AM
One positive thing about this thread.......... my experience was pretty bitter but reading these stories, makes you realize that things could have been worse.;)

hd&boatrider
04-19-2004, 08:26 AM
Originally posted by Her454
Sweet thing to say, even more awsome that you feel that way.:D
:).....Who has the time and energy for all the games....not me. Thanks

hd&boatrider
04-19-2004, 08:32 AM
Originally posted by Her454
One positive thing about this thread.......... my experience was pretty bitter but reading these stories, makes you realize that things could have been worse.;)
It can always be worse....shit, I did not even tell my stories....lol I just mentioned the marriages without much detail. Some of my relationships would make you think that I am just a complete moron....:) Basically I take people for how the approach me and I guess you could call it being naive. I think of it as looking for the good and taking people as they are presented. Of course now I am much more gaurded but I think that should be expected.

ratso
04-19-2004, 07:51 PM
#5...We actually met in 1998 and saw each other around the nightclubs but never really talked much...until one night she got in on a pool game with me. I asked her what she was doing for Valentines Day, which happened to be on a Sunday, and she said nothing, and I asked her out. We happened to be at the same place on Saturday night so we just hooked up then. She had a boy that was a few months old at the time and was told that the dad left town. It wasn't just looks I was attracted to as much as her cocky attitude and being the life of the party. We moved in together but would break up every three or four months...it was impossible to live up to her expectations and no matter what I did it was never enough. One of her exes I found out is where the main problem was, we would break up, I would move on and she would want to come back...sometimes it was a week, sometimes a month or two. Finally I decided I had to get away from her for good, and I moved to Dallas. She was back with her ex and I was seeing my ex #4. I told everyone that I knew to keep it quiet so she wouldn't find me and I could get past this thing once and for all. About 4 months later I went back to Waco for a birthday party for a friend of mine...and guess who showed up. We got back together again that night, she broke things off with her ex, I told my ex that I was going back to Waco because this was who I wanted to be with...and two months later we were married. Things were good for about 7 months and one day she came up and told me it wasn't going to work. She was wanting another child, and I basically told her that we needed to give it a little more time because of our history together and I wasn't going to have another child from a broken marriage. She also wanted us to build another house, but again with my past and hers, I wanted to give things more time. It's tough enough overcoming one divorce, let alone four. She left, filed for divorce, and to keep this story short...called off the divorce a week before it was to be final...showed up at my gym, and, since I'm a sucker for a woman crying, we got back together...again. This time it lasted another six months or so...and it happened again. Our divorce was final the day after our two year anniversary...2002. By this time I was going around doing "my thing" and we would get back together for a fling now and then, as recently as three weeks ago. The feelings I have for her haven't subsided, but after all these years of BS, I have finally accepted the fact that I need to be single...and that relationship isn't a healthy one at all. Her brother works for me (I am very close to her family) and he told me that she mentioned to him that she could never come back to me because of all the respect she has lost for me because of all the women I sleep around with in this town and it's embarassing for her. I guess if it wasn't that then it would be something else, it always has been... She told me that I put on a show and wear a smile, but she can see in my eyes that I am the saddest person she has ever met. There are a couple of people I care about that would do anything in the world for me, but I'm just lost and can't really give myself to anyone again. We hang out and we have a good time. One of them is all excited because she has never been to the dragboat races before, so I'm taking her this weekend...a good time, no drama and no BS. Too bad my heart lies elsewhere. I think it was Kilrtoy made the comment to hd&boatrider about having all the women around. Maybe I'm like that too, a one woman kind of guy though. Having all the women around doesn't mean a whole lot when none of them are the one you really want to be with, because when they leave the next day...you just have this empty feeling deep down inside...and I reach for the phone...dial the number...and hang up before it rings...because I know it can never work.
Luckily this was the last one and this thread can finally disappear... Later
Ratso

hd&boatrider
04-19-2004, 07:56 PM
Damn Ratso....All I can say is you definetly let it out.
You want me to delete this thread now :) I have to get my post count down anyhow...lol

ratso
04-19-2004, 08:02 PM
Originally posted by hd&boatrider
Damn Ratso....All I can say is you definetly let it out.
You want me to delete this thread now :) I have to get my post count down anyhow...lol
Just don't start one about ex-girlfriends...:D
Guess I've been getting sentimental watching Lifetime For Women lately...

Tom Brown
04-19-2004, 08:14 PM
Holy shit Ratso, you've polled more women than the Gallup organization.

ratso
04-19-2004, 08:17 PM
Originally posted by Tom Brown
Holy shit Ratso, you've polled more women than the Gallup organization.
...if only I could have what you and topless have...:D :D :D

hd&boatrider
04-19-2004, 08:18 PM
Originally posted by ratso
Just don't start one about ex-girlfriends...:D
Guess I've been getting sentimental watching Lifetime For Women lately...
Here you go :) http://www.***boat.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=44902