I'm pretty sure you find out your installed height of the valve with retainers first. You can't find out your installed height just from the springs, you need the valves and locks first. Then adjust the spring you're going to use accordingly
You're misunderstanding me.
Not to get into a pissing match but...
When the valve is on the seat, the valve spring is slightly compressed so that it can hold the valve up and on its seat so that it can seal itself against the seat. The more you compress this spring the more seat pressure you will have.
A cam manufacturer always recommends a certain spring to be used with a cam. That spring is rated to provide X lbs of seat pressure at a certain height. Take for example the cam card for my cam. The spring is rated to give 135lbs of seat pressure at an installed height of 1.875". This means that with the valve up against its seat, the distance from the bottom of the spring to the top of the retainer is 1.875". The distance from the bottom of the spring cup to the top of the retainer controls this, and this is where the length of the valve stem comes in.
Installed height refers to the recommended height of the spring itself, not the valve.